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The_Face_of_Boo
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18 Oct 2017, 4:59 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

Closet Genious wrote:

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You can’t really be yourself as an aspie and expect it to work. A girl said that to me a couple of years ago then came back and said “don’t be yourself “ lol

Completely agree.
"Be yourself" is bad advice.

so who is one supposed to be then?

I take that back, pretending to be someone else is completely stupid. What I mean is, be yourself, partially. I don't lie, but people don't need to know everything about me.

Most of the opinions I have expressed on this forum, I have never ever told anyone in real life. Because my social calculator has already figured out that people would hate me for thinking that way, it would be a bad move all around, so I cover it up. That's part of the reason I use this forum, it's an outlet, it's being able to say the things I cannot say.

You potentially give off the vibe of being like that in real life. It’s surprisingly easy to pick up the non verbal essence of people. I can spot an angry and/or inadequate young man a mile off.

No, you can't, stop claiming to have mind-reading super powers.

Otherwise you wouldn't have dated all these jerk and psycho exes you claim to have dated in the past.

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18 Oct 2017, 5:09 pm

One of the flaws I've noticed is that some of you all telling people advice claim to be the one who see the world differently in the most sensible manner. Truth is, what exactly does define sensible advice? Is it the right advice, or is it the advice that goes against everything, or is it in the middle?

I have that flaw too, and I do try to calm myself when I do, but I've noticed this a lot. The one who steps back and says something different from what is traditional. Hipsters?

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18 Oct 2017, 5:12 pm

Just be yourself, and mew.

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18 Oct 2017, 5:59 pm

Thank you.

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18 Oct 2017, 6:52 pm

Be your best self.

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18 Oct 2017, 7:26 pm

Try and live as the person you'd like to be seen as, or the best version of yourself.

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18 Oct 2017, 7:36 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

Closet Genious wrote:

Sweetleaf wrote:

Closet Genious wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

You can’t really be yourself as an aspie and expect it to work. A girl said that to me a couple of years ago then came back and said “don’t be yourself “ lol

Completely agree.
"Be yourself" is bad advice.

so who is one supposed to be then?

You potentially give off the vibe of being like that in real life. It’s surprisingly easy to pick up the non verbal essence of people. I can spot an angry and/or inadequate young man a mile off.

No, you can't, stop claiming to have mind-reading super powers.

Otherwise you wouldn't have dated all these jerk and psycho exes you claim to have dated in the past.

None of the people I dated were inadequate or had anger problems, I went against my better judgement for 2 of them. That was 100% my fault and I knew what I was doing. Sensing things and making a decision that’s true to your intuition are two different things. It’s not a superpower, it’s intuition and sensing things. If you don’t have any intuition, I guess it sucks to be you.

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18 Oct 2017, 10:06 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

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He doesn’t have to wear his hair like that. It’s a terrible haircut.

But he's being himself! :lol:

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18 Oct 2017, 10:08 pm

TheSpectrum wrote:

Try and live as the person you'd like to be seen as, or the best version of yourself.

Agree definately.

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18 Oct 2017, 10:10 pm

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Be your best self.

And to this.

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18 Oct 2017, 10:11 pm

Outrider wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

Outrider wrote:

He doesn’t have to wear his hair like that. It’s a terrible haircut.

But he's being himself! :lol:

Not quite, he feels like putting on a V-neck and a couple of necklaces is going to increase his chances, but the one on the left feels like he doesn't need a v-neck or necklaces or a spiked hairstyle.

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