Omniel wrote:
Omniel wrote:
I guess I have a question, then. You say nothing is missing (referring to the puzzle piece "logo").
My brother is 48, he can only work part-time and cannot support himself. My mother supported him until she died and then he had to come and live with me.
To me, if I have to support him, yeah that does suck and obviously something is "missing" if he can't support himself.
He will not apply for disability (and I guess by your measure, he isn't disabled), but he cannot tolerate more than about 25 hours a week of work and he can only tolerate minimum wage stock work.
My mother left no inheritance and I certainly won't be leaving anything. What do you propose he do when I die?
Bringing that forward, it seems nobody has any answer for this? I asked seriously. It seems to me that if a person were self-supporting there is nothing "missing" but since my brother is not, do you view it as my responsibility to support him? This wasn't something I had agreed to with my mother or with him, it's been thrust upon me.
Firstly, I don't share the view that every able bodied person should be self supporting. In fact, its high on my list of FKKED UP THINGS COMMONLY BELIEVED BY NEUROTYPICALS. Reminds me of when my dad died and my mother, who had been a stay at home wife her whole life, had to move in with ME because all she could have got was a job she wouldn't be able to live on. Are you your mothers keeper? YES YOU ARE. Are you your brothers keeper? YES YOU ARE. None of us chooses these responsibilities, but I do think bad of you for your reaction to it.
I'm not arguing that he isn't disabled, and most here wouldn't. But you are his SISTER and that should be reason enough to help him when in need. My point is that I think you would see this differently if he had a popular disability like MD.
What will happen later? He will either find a way to cope as I did or he wont, and that may mean suicide or homelessness, because of the horrible predatory society that NTs think good.
So basically what you are saying is I should give up my entire life (I have given 15 years already to my mother, who is dead and immediately I got my brother, who is 7 years younger than I am), to take care of people? That this is my purpose in life?
I purposely did not have children because I didn't want them. I certainly don't want to be supporting a 48-year-old man - this is not normal nor should it be expected.
It doesn't matter whether his disability is "popular" or not - I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS. Your opinion is that I should spend my life working 3 jobs (yes that's how many jobs I have to work to keep a roof over our heads). Death looks pretty good.
16 Nov 2017, 9:04 am
