Men should advertise lack of social skill in dating profiles

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11 Nov 2017, 6:38 pm

She’s considered “obese” because of her BMI, though.....goes to show how accurate “BMI” really is.



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11 Nov 2017, 6:43 pm

If she’s not obese at 150 lbs, you wouldn’t be obese at 240, like I’m not obese at 180.



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11 Nov 2017, 7:29 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
If she’s not obese at 150 lbs, you wouldn’t be obese at 240, like I’m not obese at 180.

I have a belly that’s like 2-4” past my waist she doesn’t.

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All those women except the last one on the right are too good for me, and I don’t find the last one attractive. So who do I date?

Likewise all these women are too good for me
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11 Nov 2017, 7:36 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
She’s considered “obese” because of her BMI, though.....goes to show how accurate “BMI” really is.

No just thst I’m faulty at judging women sizes, or thst I’ve been properly re-educate. Y the fat women movement since my birth.

I see women differently then most men. I’m sure there’s wouodmsay she’s chubby or fat like you.

It’s horrible as it eliminates most women for me :(



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11 Nov 2017, 7:53 pm

The lady in the picture might be purposely pulling her belly in.

150 lbs at 5 feet even is pretty chubby. Not that I mind it! :heart:



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11 Nov 2017, 9:00 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
The lady in the picture might be purposely pulling her belly in.

150 lbs at 5 feet even is pretty chubby. Not that I mind it! :heart:

0.o



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12 Nov 2017, 1:58 am

Sly, 280 lb is too much and you know that; yes you need to decrease it significantly.

Other users, please stop telling him that 280 lb is normal.



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12 Nov 2017, 3:15 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
The lady in the picture might be purposely pulling her belly in.

150 lbs at 5 feet even is pretty chubby. Not that I mind it! :heart:


She definitely looks like she's pulling her belly in.

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I am. That’s where I need to be to be thin so women might possibly find me attractive atleast for sexual use. It’ll take 10 months or so though at my current 10 pounds a month. But if I either reduce my food intact further or excirces burning 600 calories and just don’t replensih them that should help speed it up.
This guy is 6’2 150pounds


If that's what you want to do, do so. Just don't aim too much at an exact weight. Your built may be different than that of the guy in the photo and what looks best on you may be a bit different to what looks best on him. When you decide in some months whether you're thin enough already, pay more attention to the mirror than the scales and be realistic.



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12 Nov 2017, 5:58 am

280 is heavy--but not disastrously so at 6 foot 3. He's not 280 now, anyway. I think he's closer to 240.

He can be seen as being the "gentle, teddy bear type."



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12 Nov 2017, 3:29 pm

NorthWind wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
The lady in the picture might be purposely pulling her belly in.

150 lbs at 5 feet even is pretty chubby. Not that I mind it! :heart:


She definitely looks like she's pulling her belly in.

sly279 wrote:
I am. That’s where I need to be to be thin so women might possibly find me attractive atleast for sexual use. It’ll take 10 months or so though at my current 10 pounds a month. But if I either reduce my food intact further or excirces burning 600 calories and just don’t replensih them that should help speed it up.
This guy is 6’2 150pounds


If that's what you want to do, do so. Just don't aim too much at an exact weight. Your built may be different than that of the guy in the photo and what looks best on you may be a bit different to what looks best on him. When you decide in some months whether you're thin enough already, pay more attention to the mirror than the scales and be realistic.


How do you tell? And wouldn’t that throw off her evaluation by others?

I want to be thin so Atleast that won’t be going against me. Since both fat and thin women want thin athletic bodied guys



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12 Nov 2017, 3:30 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Sly, 280 lb is too much and you know that; yes you need to decrease it significantly.

Other users, please stop telling him that 280 lb is normal.


I’m 254 now



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12 Nov 2017, 9:20 pm

You're getting there, Sly.



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07 Feb 2018, 6:05 am

many women will see it as a red flag.



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07 Feb 2018, 6:10 am

Even mentioning mentioning it as a problem can possibly be as much of a red flag.



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07 Feb 2018, 8:06 pm

Oooh, an excellent post that came up while I was absent from the site.

If you don't like this idea, don't try it. But I would argue it is not inherently a terrible idea, and to explain why, I have to be a bit arrogant.

It would work on some women. For example, emmasma, and me.

Some men have responded that it wouldn't work on most women. Of course not! Most women aren't looking for a socially awkward partner. And if you are playing the numbers game, hoping that someone of the millions of unsuitable women out there will somehow like you, then don't take the advice. But what if you're not looking to date an unsuitable woman? What if you're looking for something much rarer - a compatible partner?

Perhaps she is looking for someone like you. Will you help her find you? Or will you hide yourself in the pile of "normalness/averageness" so she thinks you're just like the rest and skips past you?

I, for one, skip past the "normal" looking profiles when I do online dating. Not only do I reply to messages from those who state their quirks, but I also message them first. Of course, if these are quirks that I'm not looking for, that's different, but I'm talking about reading a profile and really getting a sense of who the person is, not just their good qualities or polished versions of their mediocre qualities, and seeing compatibility. Hott.

Now the arrogant part comes in because of course, you probably don't want to date me...but...plenty of people do! People with quirks and flaws and weird stuff in their profiles. We go on dates and often have a really nice time. IMO it's a successful tactic, this raw honesty thing, because it gets them a date with me when they wouldn't have otherwise ;) /arrogance

But you should word it in an appealing way? Meh, just word it in a way that sounds like you. "I'm socially awkward" or "I struggle with social skills" or "I'm an aspie" all sound good to me. "I'm extremely socially awkward" also sounds fine. That person is probably not compatible with me, but would be with someone else. "I'm a social butterfly" again sounds fine, but I would immediately skip over this person while I'm sure other women would be looking for this trait. See what I'm saying? Show who you are, and attract the women who are looking for you. It may be a tiny pool of women, but by not presenting yourself to them, you could be missing out on them.



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07 Feb 2018, 8:23 pm

TheSpectrum wrote:
emma, do you advertise your weaknesses? If not, why not?

FWIW, I do. I have a line that states "I'm a good idea, poorly executed", and it has gotten a number of positive responses. From memory I also state I'm painfully honest, that I don't fit easily into this world, that I'm pernickety, that I can't live without alone time, that I work part-time and have no intention of working full-time...probably a few more things. Oh, that I'm aspie.

But they are all "weaknesses", not weaknesses, which emmasma has clarified. They aren't negative points to everyone, only to incompatible people.