18 Nov 2017, 3:42 am
There are advantages to staying single,
If you must insist on have a negative outlook, have a positive negative outlook for the lulz.
If you do manage to reproduce, you probably just damning your children to the same faith of lonely isolation. I don't want to bring a family into the mess I have made, I would sooner kill myself with not a single hesitation, which is an impulse I am fighting quite a bit lately. Do you want to bring fellow humans into your horrible life?
I would rather my worse delusions become reality, for the greater good.
Said child could be normal and live a wonderful successful life. My uncle is poor lower class his son is a millionaire engineer.
One of my uncles is quite well off, my granda likely had aspergers but non of his sons has it. My mom might. No guarantee your kid will be austic. Just like how two drawfs have normal height kids. It’s all random.
There really isn’t any good sides to being single for me. I’d gladly give up my money spending habits to have a relationship. I’ll die and it’ll all be thrown away despite its value.
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I've never had more than an ice-box at the top of a worktop-height fridge, which seems common enough among friends of mine here in Yorkshire. A lot of rented accommodation for single people here is very small Victorian back-to-back houses - I've simply not had space for a freezer in a lot of the kitchens I've had! I think having a freezer is also a much more recent thing here than in the US; when I was a child I remember having a freezer being a very unusual thing, even for relatively middle-class families - I would have seen them most on US TV shows. I think the same is true of most kitchen appliances, we're "late developers" over here when it comes to having your own washing machine or dishwasher too.
Wow really? I grew up in a very poor neighborhood. I can't call them working class because the majority were unemployed. Yet all of them had a fridge, a freezer and a washing machine. Dishwasher was more of a middle-class thing. I didn't get a dishwasher until a couple of years ago.
I'm also a bit surprised by America and their big things. Big appliances, big cars. In American movies some of the allegedly middle class houses are like small mansions. In American sitcoms the interiors look cavernous but I've been told American living rooms aren't actually that big - they need to make the set extra large to accommodate the sightlines for a 3 camera setup and a live studio audience.
I'm surprised that the UK are "late developers". You had the industrial revolution! You were the first country with steam engines and factories and railways. The UK used to have the most advanced technology in the world. That should put you ahead of the world. Has the rest of the world caught up and even surpassed you? What happened to slow the pace of the UK's technological development?
He meant by 'late developers' that we were a bit slow to get into the post war kitchen appliances, comparable to the US, not in everything. This is partly because we ended the war bankrupt, with several years of rationing still to come and the way out was to export anything we made of any quality, so basically consumerism stalled here for twenty years 1939-1959.
And the houses are smaller, I mean a lot smaller. I don't have a microwave, a dishwasher, a freezer, or a tumble dryer but the only one I want is a freezer so I am trying to work out were I could fit it in. I only found room for the toaster by not replacing the kettle (saucepan on the hob). Mine is a one bedroom house but a lot of three bedroom houses have kitchens no bigger. A fridge, a cooker and a washing machine get house room first usually, then the freezer.
18 Nov 2017, 6:21 am
Your value is judged by those who don't have much value in the first place.
The world is small, nasty and complicated and everyone dies alone and its all thrown away anyway.
You sound like my Dad, he keeps saying to put him out in the recycle bin when he dies, and not waste money on a coffin
I think the real thing is we all live alone, everyone, because people don't really know each other because everyone chooses what of themselves to show and sees what they want to see in others. I would still like to be with someone but I think it's unrealistic to expect them to give me what I need most, complete acceptance, because they aren't going to know every thought that goes through my mind, so if I want that then, I have to give it to myself.
Everyone is essentially alone, therefor we must accept ourselves.
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29 Nov 2017, 9:46 pm
There's nothing wrong with girls setting baseline criteria for dating them being a job & income, drivers licence, car etc. These are not "celebrity crush dream date," sort of criteria. They're very basic. It seems completely reasonable to me that if they don't see themselves being with someone who doesn't at least function at this level in society that they're up front about it in their online profiles.
I know hetero women who've gone on dates with guys who didn't meet their very similar criteria and then decided not to continue dating these guys for those reasons. Everyone is seeking someone about equal or better, in general anyways. The women I know are completely justified not wanting to date someone living on a pittance of a disability pension who is clinically depressed while they're earning $80-90K/year working hard. Relationships require a bit of financial compatibility. These women couldn't see themselves being with someone who couldn't "keep up with them," so to speak, in the lifestyle they've become accustomed to and I don't blame them one bit for knowing that's not the sort of partner they want and thus not settling for one.
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29 Nov 2017, 10:02 pm
That's discrimination!! /sarcasm
Exactly!Literally, though.. e v e r y o n e discriminates against others when it comes to selecting a date/hookup/significant other based on how well they do or don't fit their personal criteria.
I'm not really sure how others seem to not comprehend this sometimes.
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