At what age did your children with ASD start speaking?

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06 Nov 2017, 12:21 pm

I have a son who just turned 3 this month who has moderate (Level 2) ASD.

Prior to a few months ago, he was completely non-verbal. He now can say around 50 words, but they are all nouns used for labelling (kitty - points to our cat, etc.). We have a talking device for him, but he doesn't yet understand how to use it in any meaningful way. He also gets 3 hours a week of private speech therapy (all we can afford), but has mads very little progress.

At what age did your child start to speak or really start to understand verbal language?

I'm not sure if my son will ever be able to speak, and I'm coming to terms with that... I'm just unsure if I should just "accept" it at this point and move on, or still hold on to some hope that he might eventually speak some day.



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06 Nov 2017, 1:04 pm

My mom says I didn't speak until I was three and until I was five, it was just repeating things I heard other people said. Even to this day, I find myself having to "borrow" people's words. It's like English isn't my first language. Words aren't my first language.


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07 Nov 2017, 3:19 am

ENFPwithADHD wrote:
I have a son who just turned 3 this month who has moderate (Level 2) ASD.

Prior to a few months ago, he was completely non-verbal. He now can say around 50 words, but they are all nouns used for labelling (kitty - points to our cat, etc.). We have a talking device for him, but he doesn't yet understand how to use it in any meaningful way. He also gets 3 hours a week of private speech therapy (all we can afford), but has mads very little progress.

At what age did your child start to speak or really start to understand verbal language?


I didn't start speaking until I was 8. And it was the same thing with me, only one sylible nouns. And at 17, I really haven't progressed much beyond that dispite a lot of speech therapy. Take it for granted that he understands what is being said a lot more than he's able to let on.

ENFPwithADHD wrote:
I'm not sure if my son will ever be able to speak, and I'm coming to terms with that... I'm just unsure if I should just "accept" it at this point and move on, or still hold on to some hope that he might eventually speak some day.


Both. My parents have always been very accepting but also proactive. Both them and I hope someday something will click and I'll be able to get past my nonverbal barrier. Speech therapy sucked. It many times left me crying my eyes out in frustration. It didn't really produce any big results. But I think it still helped me. Made me stronger and more proactive on my end. Gave me a better chance. Btw I think 3 days a week is plenty.

I suggest talking to him in a very ordinary way. Converse with him even if you're the only one doing the talking. Add gestures to it. Nod when saying yes, shake your head when saying no. I get along pretty well using nonverbal gestures.


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07 Nov 2017, 9:11 am

ENFPwithADHD wrote:
At what age did your child start to speak or really start to understand verbal language?

I'm not sure if my son will ever be able to speak, and I'm coming to terms with that... I'm just unsure if I should just "accept" it at this point and move on, or still hold on to some hope that he might eventually speak some day.

I would say both of my children really started to talk around age 4 and a half. By then, they were already reading advanced books. In the case of my daughter, I believe she was already reading Diary of a Wimpy Kid. Excerpt here:

http://www.npr.org/2009/10/22/113754340/excerpt-diary-of-a-wimpy-kid-dog-days

My point is: why do you care whether your son talks or not?

Wouldn't it be better to draw pictures for your son and write down words in front of him, so he could learn to read early on?

There is no scientific evidence to suggest that autistic children must talk or socialize for they to develop. All on the contrary, all the evidence points to futility of teaching autistic children to talk or socialize. For wanting to make their children talk and socialize, parents neglect to develop their children's cognitive skills through the visual-manual channel, which is quite ironic... because our society succeeds everyday in developing deaf, mute and blind children.

My daughter is now 9 years old, and she draws full "comic books," with original characters and story lines. She told me she wants to make two comic books per month. I told her: no, that's too much. I told her: no more than one comic book per month. My son is creating tons of cartoon drawings of Captain Underpants, including making his own flip-o-ramas. They now both draw much better than I do.

See, when my children were young, I was the one drawing pictures for them: every day, every night. Today, I just sit back and relax. While other parents went crazy trying to make their children talk and socialize, I was spending my time drawing pictures and making animation video clips for my children, reading books with them, and writing down words and sentences in front of them. I did not let the brains of my children go idle. You want to know what happened to those children whose parents chased after speech therapy and socialization activities? Do you want to know? Most of those children are now way behind my children. My children are smart, verbal, social, happy, smiling everyday. Many of those other children are still non-verbal, non-social, some have violent behaviors. Some families have since been broken.

Your choice. You do have a pair of hands, I suppose. Use them, like the way I did.


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07 Nov 2017, 9:23 am

Wait a second: he IS speaking. Except maybe at a 18-month old level. Perhaps he will "catch up," like other kids do.

The fact that he is speaking spontaneously at all, and not merely repeating things (echolalia) is significant. It is documented that the prognosis for kids who learn to speak by age 5 is significantly better than kids who learn to speak later than age 5.

There are some "normal" three-year-olds who have minimal language, then develop "normally" thereafter.

How is he in other skills---like dressing and toileting?

I started speaking at age 5 1/2. I rapidly progressed to the point there I was speaking in full sentences at age 6.