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chand5309
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06 Nov 2017, 4:42 pm

Hello, my name is Chris, I am a male diagnosed with aspergersyndrom. I’m using wrongplanet in hope that I can finally get a girlfriend. I am 27 years old and I have never been able to get a single date with a girl. Why do I struggle to get my first girlfriend? That answer besides having autism is something I don’t get myself. I don’t get a chance to socialize very much- even when I try because, most of my friends are always too busy doing something else in life to hang out with. Plus, the job I work at is commonly understaffed and I’m the only full-time cart pusher here at Walmart. The other cart pushers are very commonly high school guys that only come in part-time during the evenings.
I have attempted and researched many online dating sites, but they all have proven to me that my odds of getting any kind of contact from a girl are always going to comparable to winning a jackpot on the lottery or a slot machine in a casino.
I even tried something else online I thought would possess more focus on being passionate with making a successful relationship such as mail order bride site, but I sure figured out how wrong I thought about almost a year later. Yes, it turned out for me I was able to retrieve an active response from a girl from that kind of website and I was getting more and more convinced that things were actually not going to waste my time. That was until one of the women I once dated on there- broke up with me for a suspicious reason. With me being shocked and confused, I relooked at the research I had done on that website and found out it was all a scam.
I’m looking for a type of girl starting at an age of 18 to 23, who is caring and understanding, energetic, outgoing with an elegantly feminine but with a slight tomboyish attitude. You know… a kind of person that likes to have fun. The outer attractive part I’m looking for is a girl with long hair, soft smooth skin, between average weight and somewhat underweight and a body shape that’s either petite, inverted triangular or hourglass. Over all what I’m saying is that I prefer a girl who cares about the satisfaction with both inner and outer beauty in a romantic relationship, just like me. I mean it wouldn’t be a true romantic relationship without a good enough balance of those two things, would it? By the way, I’m not attracted to girls who abuses drugs and alcohol, or smokes. One last thing I should mention is that I’m not looking for a girlfriend who’s a single mom. It’s not that I don’t like kids. It’s just that I it would be too sudden for me, since I never even had a romantic relationship before.
You don’t have to look perfectly like what I described. Just good enough to make the lust part of a relationship enjoyable. I put quite some effort into building my body into something muscular, toned and handsome to please a woman. And to this day, I am still working out to make me look even more sexier! I would hate to have all my efforts go in vain- all because nothing in life will give me a chance with a girlfriend of my own. So please, if there is another girl with a higher functioning form of autism like me, then will you please give me a chance?
I have a facebook profile if you’re interested in what I look like and want to know more about me. I don’t care about how far away you are from where I live, because I’m confident we’ll figure something out to be together. I’ve wasted too much of my patients on looking for a woman to be my lover, so I’m not going to give up so easily. I’m a very desperate man that’s tired of being stuck in a desperate situation, and therefore I’m willing to do anything to make our relationship work for the both of us.
Please comment on my post if you do want to give me a chance to be your boyfriend. I’ll choose one of you I’m interested in, while the rest of you can be friends with me on this site. Let me know if you need more information to find me on facebook. I’m sure you will.



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06 Nov 2017, 5:36 pm

I don't think putting your address on here is a good thing, if it is even your address and you are not just trying to cause the actual Chris problems.



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06 Nov 2017, 7:25 pm

Chris, there are ASD dating sites on the net (so I understand) though Wrong Planet is not one of them. Primarily WP is is a support site for AS people, their families and supporters. You are welcome to seek help and support about dating issues however please don't try to attract partners here on the forums, and be aware that the PM system is not to be used in this way to contact members you may feel attracted to.

I have removed some identifying information from your post, for your own internet safety.

You can seek advice, support, companionship here and it is a useful place to learn more than most people ever know about AS conditions and realities.

If people want to go to your Facebook page then they can contact you via the private message system and you can give them the name of your page there.

For your own net safety, please amend your profile page to take out the street address, just leave the general area if you wish. I hope this helps!



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06 Nov 2017, 9:00 pm

I worked at CrapMart for over two years doing floor-care. I know how bad working there can be sometimes. Anyways.. I met my 2nd & current girlfriend on here but I made LOTS of post about what I wanted in a partner, the way my personality is within a relationship & what I have to offer a partner. I also posted aLOT about my different issues trying to get advice, sort things out & better understand myself so I could learn, grow & improve myself. I gave advice to others here & participated in random type discussions. I was here for a few years at least before I met my 2nd girlfriend. My point is that it is possible for some guys here to find girlfriends but it takes ALOT of time, effort & work. Making this one post very probably won't do you any good.


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07 Nov 2017, 1:57 pm

There is single aspie thread in this forum that you can post him. The eligible oddbods thread.



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13 Nov 2017, 2:16 pm

Daniel89 wrote:
I don't think putting your address on here is a good thing, if it is even your address and you are not just trying to cause the actual Chris problems.




reply from Chris: I didn't expect this site to copy my exact location from my main profile to this post. oops. Do you have any idea on how I can edit my post?



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13 Nov 2017, 3:04 pm

B19 wrote:
Chris, there are ASD dating sites on the net (so I understand) though Wrong Planet is not one of them. Primarily WP is is a support site for AS people, their families and supporters. You are welcome to seek help and support about dating issues however please don't try to attract partners here on the forums, and be aware that the PM system is not to be used in this way to contact members you may feel attracted to.

I have removed some identifying information from your post, for your own internet safety.

You can seek advice, support, companionship here and it is a useful place to learn more than most people ever know about AS conditions and realities.

If people want to go to your Facebook page then they can contact you via the private message system and you can give them the name of your page there.

For your own net safety, please amend your profile page to take out the street address, just leave the general area if you wish. I hope this helps!








reply from Chris: Thank you, B19. I am new to this kind of site, so obviously I am going to be slightly off on what I'm doing with posts. Therefore, if you do have any more useful information on how this site works out and such, then could you please let me know? I'd really appreciate it.



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13 Nov 2017, 5:33 pm

It's a bit of a learning curve at first, Chris, the General Forum and the Random Forums tend to be the friendliest so you might want to spend some time there as a newbie.