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Jamesy
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15 Nov 2017, 2:12 pm

The last time a girl implied she fancied me was 4 years ago in a nightclub when I was 24. Back in those days my female friends would call me things like good looking, attractive, cute and gorgeous etc.... but now I am labelled creepy, gay and stalker by my female associates in social settings.

Nearly 3 years ago though I took up martial/boxing for a while and got my face messed up/injuries which I do kinda regret doing looking back on it :(

Any advice for my current predicament?



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15 Nov 2017, 2:38 pm

Stop going to bars....



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15 Nov 2017, 2:45 pm

At least 4 years ago I had a more attractive face too bail me out when I went out too bars.

There was this one girl 4 years ago who fancied me and chased after me. I was too keep too take things when she gave me her number. Saw her for the first time in 2-3 years in September 2016 and she said too me "I used too really fancy you.

She is engaged too one of my old friends but I am sure she would have still been interested if my face was undamaged?



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15 Nov 2017, 2:55 pm

Plastic surgery to repair your face.



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15 Nov 2017, 3:06 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Plastic surgery to repair your face.


Too expensive for me at the moment.

Before I took up boxing my brother warned me "your face is the first thing someone notices about you"

What do you think he meant by that exactly?



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15 Nov 2017, 3:16 pm

You probably don't need plastic surgery.



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15 Nov 2017, 3:18 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
You probably don't need plastic surgery.



What did my brother mean by that comment he made towards me?



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15 Nov 2017, 3:57 pm

Jamesy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Plastic surgery to repair your face.


Too expensive for me at the moment.

Before I took up boxing my brother warned me "your face is the first thing someone notices about you"

What do you think he meant by that exactly?


Unfortunately my telepathic link to your brother isn't quite strong enough to tell you what he meant by his statements. I suggest trying something drastic and desperate; ask him.



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15 Nov 2017, 4:07 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Plastic surgery to repair your face.


Too expensive for me at the moment.

Before I took up boxing my brother warned me "your face is the first thing someone notices about you"

What do you think he meant by that exactly?



Unfortunately my telepathic link to your brother isn't quite strong enough to tell you what he meant by his statements. I suggest trying something drastic and desperate; ask him.



Too think if my face was untouched I would have any army of female admirers.

What as waste of what could have been a better life.



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15 Nov 2017, 4:46 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Plastic surgery to repair your face.


Too expensive for me at the moment.

Before I took up boxing my brother warned me "your face is the first thing someone notices about you"

What do you think he meant by that exactly?



Unfortunately my telepathic link to your brother isn't quite strong enough to tell you what he meant by his statements. I suggest trying something drastic and desperate; ask him.



Too think if my face was untouched I would have any army of female admirers.

What as waste of what could have been a better life.


Well you don't need an army, you just need one.



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15 Nov 2017, 8:02 pm

Stop focusing on the snide comments people make and start listening to advice instead.


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16 Nov 2017, 6:04 pm

Jamesy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Plastic surgery to repair your face.


Too expensive for me at the moment.

Before I took up boxing my brother warned me "your face is the first thing someone notices about you"


What do you think he meant by that exactly?


He meant that you shouldn’t ruin your face because ruining it will make it harder for you to attract someone.

He is right, the face is the first thing someone notices about you.

We have never seen your face, but if it’s seriously ruined by boxing then I highly advice you to invest in a restoration surgery. It’s no guarantee that you will get a gf after the surgery but if your face is really damaged in some way then your current chances are very low.



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16 Nov 2017, 8:07 pm

Some women like men who have lived a life, done manly things like boxing and like themselves anyhow. No one likes a negative sad sack though.

You are single and Free, no terrible women to pull you down and keep you from being yourself. Embrace and cherish your freedom. Be physically active and take good care of yourself. Have standards for potential partners that are compatible with the values you have for yourself. Do the best you can to enjoy each day.

I hope that helps.



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17 Nov 2017, 5:16 am

violette_22 wrote:
Some women like men who have lived a life, done manly things like boxing and like themselves anyhow. No one likes a negative sad sack though.

You are single and Free, no terrible women to pull you down and keep you from being yourself. Embrace and cherish your freedom. Be physically active and take good care of yourself. Have standards for potential partners that are compatible with the values you have for yourself. Do the best you can to enjoy each day.

I hope that helps.


Did you see his face? His face may be seriously damaged while you are lecturing him this moral speech.



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20 Nov 2017, 11:42 pm

My young cousin used too be really affectionate towards me before I took up boxing. My mom said too me " your cousin likes you because you have an open face

But now my cousin ignores me



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21 Nov 2017, 10:26 am

Maybe because you're less "open"---because you're too much under the influence of the "bar" culture.