Had enough of WP

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I don't blame OP for feeling fed up with WP, or any website for the most part. It's also pretty condescending when someone who's not part of the targeted audience for the forum tries to dismiss someone's frustration.

^^ Pretending to be part of something you're not, is also pretty condescending, moreover if it's targeted at a female audience, and its one for every woman, not a single audience.

This is exactly the sort of problem that has sent me here from L&D. I agree with the first comment. AND the second comment. Nobody should be made to feel that their opinion was worthless just because of their sex.

The third comment is a perfect example of making someone else feel unwelcome.

This sounds good.

I think your suggestions are helpful and perhaps you could message Alex about them?

I agree with ASpartOfMe's suggestions. Sorry I am not fluent with quotes.

I actually felt teamed up on and bullied here on the women's discussion. The rest of the forums were fine.

I think it's important to keep aware of the numbers on either side of a disagreement. An significant imbalance feels like bullying even if individual comments are not that bad. I think this is one of the probs with L&D but can happen anywhere. I leave a thread when it starts to go that way and I'm on the large side or sometimes I change sides because I can't stand it when it feels so unbalanced.

First off, I want to tell you I always looked forward to seeing what you had to say and I respect your viewpoints. I may not be able to fully understand your plight, but I do care about and respect your opinions. I am sorry there are so many men out there that refuse to take your viewpoint as a valid/equal point of view, but you must know they are in the wrong and those types of people will likely never change. There are plenty of men that view odd and geeky as a positively attractive feature so don't lump us all into a single pile. I truly hope you find some happiness in this world and I hope you come back to the wrong planet because I guarantee that you will in fact be missed, that I have no doubt about hurtloam.

I too respect your contributions here. It may sound naive of me to say so, but the misogynistic posts probably aren't as personal to the targets as they seem; it's not about you, so much, as the nature of the beast:

http://time.com/3965630/men-attack-women-online-losers/

The misogyny on WP disheartens me overall. This is a support forum (WP) and even the embittered would
be offered genuine support here if they stopped projecting their hostility onto other members, put aside their bitter resentment and genuinely asked for help. Instead they displace and dump their rage on women in general and some female members who refuse to be intimidated by the abuse. I surmise that by doing this, they try to make themselves feel powerful transiently. But WP was never created for that type of embittered aggression to be inflicted on members.

Reddit had to change its rules because of a similar group of misogynistic members who made the place intolerable.

Most members seem to value their membership here, a small cadre abuse their posting privileges. In the future there may be changes. I wouldn't mind seeing L and D as a forum replaced by a forum on Human Relationships with specific rules and a screening process before posts are approved. Unless there are other better ways of achieving better outcomes.

Wonder if it works also IRL. That low-status males are nastier towards females.
Or does it not depend on status as much as on one's feeling of security and self-worth?
Would welcome further studies.

The last time I was a "gamer" was in the early 1980s. I only became moderately good through assiduous practice. Instinctually, I am a sucky gamer.

There were female gamers then. I never really cared how good or bad they were.

I was only irritated by my own ineptitude.

It seems to be a crutch for a lot of people. Pick a group of people, blame them for everything that goes wrong in your life, feel better about yourself. Simple and effective, what could go wrong.

'A sucky gamer' you need to put that on the list of colloquial expressions.

I would imagine it has more to do with one's upbringing and cultural influences. Social expectations apply to all genders. A male ego or manhood is rather frail even though many males boast, society puts a lot of pressure on them to act in certain ways or project a certain image. Perhaps those who boast the most are the most frail and are insecure about their manhood, feeling the need to project strength but this is mere speculation on my part. I imagine that nastiness is solely on the male in question, feeling as though their image has somehow been tarnished to look "less" then a man to other males. I am not defending that position, but rather speculating on what they are feeling and why they lash out the way they do. It is unfortunate, society places these types of outdated expectations on people.

Gamers aren’t nice people. They are the cruelest, most gang bashing subgroup of people, from my experience.

Which sucks when you are a gamer.