I've finally got an awesome Dutch lawyer, though she's the 6th I've gone through in a year. The culture here seems very allergic to emotions compared to what I'm used to, so many of the lawyers assumed I was guilty as charged, and didn't even try to help me. Actually that's adding to the feeling of helplessness, that even with her on my side I still couldn't win the hearing. And it's how child services works, and I know for a fact this is the case in the US too, that judges decide the outcome in advance, and always decide on the side of child services. And they want to keep me in the system as long as possible, because of the money to be made from it. It's corrupt, and I can't win. And in this case, being foreign makes me an even easier target, so they're using my son and I to make money.