When a Friend Ghosts You

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It's real obvious you are being ghosted when the friend ignores text messages and Facebook messages. You know this person still goes online as their Facebook page shows current activity.

I have learned that when a friend ghosts you, it usually means that some sort of conflict is going on.

It's best to call them and leave a message their phone rather than a voice message by asking if you did something to offend them and if they ignore you or give you excuses like "I don't go on Facebook anymore" or "I am sorry but I am doing XYZ" then leave them alone.

Otherwise, if they tell that something is bothering them, try and reconcile with them by meeting them out somewhere.

I just leave the person alone.

I tried the phone call idea before. She didn't pick up. Leaving a voicemail as well. At a point, you leave alone.

Summer twilight

Your technique could work well, in some circumstances

However, not all precious lil "friends" are worth the effort/energy

Cost benefit analysis

The best case scenario is that both parties go holding hands skipping off into the sunset



The worst case scenario is subject to imagination






Ultimatum

When I had only one precious lil "friend", it was like one "person" had the monopoly

Sometimes it is just easier to not have any precious lil "friends"

Deal breakers:



Excessive micromanagement or judgment of my every action and statement

Unwillingness to compromise sufficient

Too much peer pressure

Homophobia.

Frequently cancelling or not bothering to go to mutually arranged interactions.

Saying "huh" and "what" too often, instead of "excuse me".

Too many times their dogs bothered me

Gossip

Asking too many personal questions

Using biased terminology too often. Or "you got mad"

Referring to himself or herself as "people", "we" or "most people"


"holier than thou" attitude



Yeah maybe my standards are unreasonably high

And yes maybe I am not worth the cost benefit analysis for them

But..... Some precious lil "people" just require way too much passive aggressive tolerance to interact with






Usually I am willing to compromise

But maybe I should not be the only one compromising

Short Guy- You're cool in my book.

history gal:

but you have never interacted with me in person before. if you did, then seriously doubt you would find me "cool".

however, if you still did, then what? you (and i) are just strangers on the internet.

the effects that strangers on the internet can have, are extremely limited

Ah I know we are strangers on the internet. Can't you just take the compliment at face value? From what I see of you on here, you are a straight shooter. To me that is cool.

Most of us won't meet in person. We have our online discussions which suits most of us.

Enjoy the rest of your holiday.