Making friends

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I find it very challenging to make friends for so many reasons. Most people are hard to relate to because their lives are different from mine. Most people are shallow. I don't get the social games and the endless competitiveness. What do you guys find challenging about making friends?

Number 1 issue for me, finding people who are respectful (and trustworthy). Too many times have I encountered people who do not respect me for who I am and pretend that they do when they don't.

I also agree with you on the relate thing. It's hard for me to really relate to anyone enough to consider forming friendships.

My biggest frustration right now. There is so much I want to do in life, but not by myself and I want to share myself with people and learn from others. The game playing is the one thing I do not get. People do it all the time, I see it, I have been accused of it myself but even if I wanted to play games, which I don't and never will, I would not know where to start. My life has not been, shall we say normal so yes, relating to people is hard for me.

There is a woman at my congregation who I do not get along with because she seems to be sweet as pie to other people while she is mean to me.

1. I asked her where she works because I was trying to be nice and she said that she worked at a health food store and I said I was interested when I asked her for the name. "It's XYZ store but you won't be buying because their products are very expensive."

Basically, she seemed to get jealous when any of her friends express any interest in joining me for lunch there or even talk to me.

Examples.
1.This past weekend, all her friends came to sit at the same table that I sat at while seemed to refuse to sit down and just stood up while eating
2.This other lady and I seem to get along and a few weeks ago while we were talking, this same lady pulled her away from me

This woman plays games by seeming to want all the attention because she's the "Popular girl." I one time heard her talking about how someone was trying to "Take that away from her" by "Destroying her reputation.

She finds every effort to find me in awkward situations so she can laugh at me and it's really annoying.

Kick them to the curb, Twilight. You don't need this. Women like you mentioned are hopeless.

I find it hard to keep conversations going because I'm used to talking only about animes, movies, games and TV series and I don't meet people who talk about these things anymore. I didn't use to have a problem with that, people would start a conversation with me about something they've watched recently and then we would just keep talking for a really long time. Now, I only meet people who talk about their lives, about the weather, etc. And I don't know what I should answer to these things.

I agree with all the comments made. In social gatherings I find that NT people talk much about stuff I am not able to relate to.
I find that there are people who just talk for the sake of talking, I think it comforts their inner anxiety.

Much love ...... Bob

Many of them call himself or herself, "most people", as if he or she outnumbered me, so he or she overpowered me. It is correct that, in many ways, he or she was more normal than me. But there is only one of him or her and only one of me

Sometimes, he or she is totally theatrical

It's hard for me to reach a balance between not caring, and going overboard

When they say or do something I don't like, I do not say anything because I am afraid that, if I said something, they would not want to be my precious lil "friend" anymore. But they keep micromanaging me.

If he or she dumps me, I go from one to zero "friends". If I dump him or her, he or she goes from 100 to 99 friends. It is like he has the monopoly competition

Many times I do not feel like making actions or statements. Bored, tired, lazy. While she will not close her trap

Peer pressure

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