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firemonkey
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24 Jan 2018, 12:15 pm

Does anyone not have much drive and interest in socialising ie you make little effort to do so? The truth is most of the time you are content with your own company.
You’ll socialise if you have but you won’t go out of your way to get in that situation in the first place.

Do you see it as part of your character or something that varies dependant on how symptomatic you are?

I have mentioned about socialising to the social worker but it’s less through being ultra keen to socialise more than because I know this is the kind of thing they want their clients to do . Truth is I am not sure I could commit myself to socialising on a Monday and Thursday week in week out, for example, when the desire/need to socialise would be much less frequent.

Then there is interacting when you get there. Not knowing how and when to introduce yourself to someone and engage in conversation. Being like someone stuck in the corner of a room at a party.



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24 Jan 2018, 8:55 pm

I'm that person who'd be stuck in the corner of a room at a party. If fact, I wouldn't go to the party in the first place. Would you believe that, at my age, I've never been to a funeral or real wedding? Even to this day I dread reunions. I'm glad my family hasn't planned one in ages. Yeah. I'm the Isolation King. It's the only way to get peace from this cold, cruel world.



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25 Jan 2018, 1:14 pm

firemonkey wrote:
Does anyone not have much drive and interest in socialising ie you make little effort to do so? The truth is most of the time you are content with your own company.
You’ll socialise if you have but you won’t go out of your way to get in that situation in the first place.

Do you see it as part of your character or something that varies dependant on how symptomatic you are?

I have mentioned about socialising to the social worker but it’s less through being ultra keen to socialise more than because I know this is the kind of thing they want their clients to do . Truth is I am not sure I could commit myself to socialising on a Monday and Thursday week in week out, for example, when the desire/need to socialise would be much less frequent.

Then there is interacting when you get there. Not knowing how and when to introduce yourself to someone and engage in conversation. Being like someone stuck in the corner of a room at a party.


Yh i just dont want to put the effort to move my mouth it seems like hard work and alot of of the time i don't have the desire to initiate communication even though when others talk to me i do appreciate it. I guess i am more interested in socialising then when i was younger but now much.



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25 Jan 2018, 3:07 pm

firemonkey wrote:
Does anyone not have much drive and interest in socialising ie you make little effort to do so? The truth is most of the time you are content with your own company.
You’ll socialise if you have but you won’t go out of your way to get in that situation in the first place.



I'm not sure if it's my drive and interest , my issues when I do socialise or Victor Meldrew Syndrome ( my age ).

I can't quite pinpoint why , it might be all three but it definitely started with the issues I have when socialising.


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25 Jan 2018, 5:56 pm

I actively avoid socialising. At work I refuse to go to lunch with anyone, and though sometimes I will go for drinks after work that's only because alcohol make me more sociable, without it I would avoid those too. I don't mind chatting online every so often, and I do call to talk to my parents sometimes because I find them relaxing, but I rarely want to see them.

My best friend struggles to see me more than 4 times a year and even though I live with my boyfriend I spend most of my time in a separate room cause I find it too overwhelming to be around someone all the time.

I don't really mind it or miss social stuff. Sometimes I will have a random social moment, make plans and live to regret it lol xD



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27 Jan 2018, 6:34 pm

I gave up socializing a long time ago. It just never works out, so why bother?



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20 Feb 2018, 10:09 am

I've been a loner my whole life & never really cared for much socializing outside of romantic relationships. Two of the 3 jobs I had were retail & involved abit of socializing with customers & other employees but for the most part I kept it polite & professional. I would stay focused on my work until somebody wanted/needed something & then I'd deal with it & then get back to work afterwards. I did develop abit of social skills from the experiences but I don't really go out of my way to socialize with others unless I have to.


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20 Feb 2018, 3:32 pm

If it's meeting a group that's to do with a favourite hobby it'd be OK.... Though there's still the recovery time needed so Monday and Thursday might be a bit much.

I do like to just meet up with people sometimes but twice a week is way too often, unless it's family.