Do people even want me to have a girlfriend?
auntblabby
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I lacked the money and resources also, which is why I went the military route as they paid me to get out of there. otherwise i'd have been stuck in place also. believe me, uncle sam's army was #1 on my list of things to avoid but I had no real choice, so I was backed into it. I was nobody's idea of a GI, I wasn't other GI's idea of a GI as they repeatedly reminded me, but necessity forced my hand and they had to deal with me.
I lack the money and resources
So how can you change that? You'll need to figure that out sooner or later or time will just pass you by and there's no reason you won't be in the same situation in your 40s and 50s
I lack the money and resources
So how can you change that? You'll need to figure that out sooner or later or time will just pass you by and there's no reason you won't be in the same situation in your 40s and 50s
I'd either have to stop spending on everything except for groceries and necessities or go back to school and study like crazy to get a degree for a higher paying job. The problem with both options are that they require disengaging from socializing all together and it would feel agonizing.
I lack the money and resources
So how can you change that? You'll need to figure that out sooner or later or time will just pass you by and there's no reason you won't be in the same situation in your 40s and 50s
I'd either have to stop spending on everything except for groceries and necessities or go back to school and study like crazy to get a degree for a higher paying job. The problem with both options are that they require disengaging from socializing all together and it would feel agonizing.
The fact you need a higher education to move up career wise isn’t always the case. Sometimes, all you need is a foot in the door. If you are interested, try emailing your cv to companies you may want to work for. Even with a standard job, you have tge ability to move up. You just need to believe in your abilities. If you could have any job in the world, what would you choose?
I lack the money and resources
So how can you change that? You'll need to figure that out sooner or later or time will just pass you by and there's no reason you won't be in the same situation in your 40s and 50s
I'd either have to stop spending on everything except for groceries and necessities or go back to school and study like crazy to get a degree for a higher paying job. The problem with both options are that they require disengaging from socializing all together and it would feel agonizing.
Well what's more appealing to you? Socialising and spending and remaining in the same situation for the foreseeable future or abstaining from socialising and saving money for a bit and getting yourself into a better situation?
Change isn't going to happen if you don't force its hand.
I lack the money and resources
So how can you change that? You'll need to figure that out sooner or later or time will just pass you by and there's no reason you won't be in the same situation in your 40s and 50s
I'd either have to stop spending on everything except for groceries and necessities or go back to school and study like crazy to get a degree for a higher paying job. The problem with both options are that they require disengaging from socializing all together and it would feel agonizing.
The fact you need a higher education to move up career wise isn’t always the case. Sometimes, all you need is a foot in the door. If you are interested, try emailing your cv to companies you may want to work for. Even with a standard job, you have tge ability to move up. You just need to believe in your abilities. If you could have any job in the world, what would you choose?
Indeed. Any job with room for upward mobility will see your wages increase over time if you're a good employee.
I lack the money and resources
So how can you change that? You'll need to figure that out sooner or later or time will just pass you by and there's no reason you won't be in the same situation in your 40s and 50s
I'd either have to stop spending on everything except for groceries and necessities or go back to school and study like crazy to get a degree for a higher paying job. The problem with both options are that they require disengaging from socializing all together and it would feel agonizing.
The fact you need a higher education to move up career wise isn’t always the case. Sometimes, all you need is a foot in the door. If you are interested, try emailing your cv to companies you may want to work for. Even with a standard job, you have tge ability to move up. You just need to believe in your abilities. If you could have any job in the world, what would you choose?
I've never really had a career or atleast a singular one in mind other than being a paleontologist because I loved dinosaurs but my family and the people around me didn't encourage that since it's not a common career. For a long time, my father would try to push me to be a veterinarian and he would say I needed to know a lot of math. Along the way, I was told again and again I needed to know math but when I couldn't get past pre-algebra, I felt discouraged about ever having a career. I think I have a form of dyscalculia because I find math to be very difficult to the point I need to use my fingers for even basic math equations and more difficult ones require a calculator for me.
I did have some aspirations to do things like play in a rock band or do something that involved drawing or animation but I had no friends to truly perform with nor could I get a band formed because most people around me just wanted to talk about football and cars and I could never draw as good as I wanted; I would always mess up or my creativity would get stunted. I also didn't get a good grade in the college art class I took and it defeated me.
Not necessarily: I have been doing the same job for 11 years. Despite the fact my skills have exponentially grown, including 2 more College Diplomas I actually make less money when factoring in inflation and I haven't had a raise of any kind in about 4 years. In case you are wondering I have also applied to countless other jobs (internally and externally) to no avail. Nobody can ever say I am anything less than a model employee and it has accounted for nothing in my situation.
Sometimes in life you can do everything right and still come out on the losing end. A lot of the people in jobs higher than mine are woefully unqualified and sometimes I think there is a wheel in the back room when it is time for promotions!
I read an e-book by someone who calls himself alone99. He's 57 and he tried to be things like a rock star and an actor but his bands never caught on and he only made minor acting roles; he even had to move back to live with his mother in his early 50's because he aged out of key demographics and thus hardly gets any more acting roles outside of plays. He's also a virgin and has never had a girlfriend. Even the women he socialized with rejected him or had a boyfriend in the background. As I approach my 30's, I fear about my life becoming like his. I've had a girlfriend and I am not a virgin but the fact I haven't had any love in my life since 2010 still hurts me.
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