The girl I like just broke up with her boyfriend

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And I don't know how to pursue anything with her. I like her very much and would love to go out with her, but I have never had a girlfriend and just don't know what to do. I see her everyday she is a classmate of mine. What should I do. She'll probably find a ne boyfriend and ill be out ofl uck.

Do you talk to her already or are you friends? If not, I would start by just building an acquaintance and casual friendship with her, slowly (think, chatting/messaging once or twice a week to start with).

You want to avoid giving her too much attention because that might make her uncomfortable: 1. Because she's probably very emotional after her break up, and 2. Because giving her too much attention and pursuing her too hard will make her feel like a piece of meat or an object that you're trying to attain as soon as she becomes available (and especially after her breakup when she feels vulnerable and may be an easier target)

Go slow - if she finds a new boyfriend while you're slowly trying to build a friendship/relationship with her, then she wasn't very interested anyway, so you're better off not having tried too hard. And trying too hard will probably scare her off anyway

Ask her out for coffee.

Don’t do or say anything different than what youve been doing or saying previously.

Don't pursue a relationship too quickly because you may come off as someone who is desperate, which in turn may be a reason for her to avoid you.

Give her time to recover from the breakup.