sly279 wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
I didn't get many matches on Tinder, because every single person I considered worth watching with would have had to match back in order to have anything close to a high number of matches. And only a portion did.
But even with the matches I did get, only around 10% would send me a message. Most were just 'collecting matches', as apparently that's a thing.
(I tried the 'just swipe right on everyone' method for a bit, and I got plenty of matches but still not many messages.)
I'm not ugly. But I don't present like your 'typical' female either. That can be another reason. I'm guessing plenty of guys swiped left because I had short hair and no makeup. While the ones who swiped right and messaged me actually liked that about me. So it's possible to be not ugly but also not universally attractive, at the same time.
They probably figure you were a spam bot. Most the attractive women on tinder are bots. I’ve been matched with plenty of bots.
Why didn’t you message men?
Could you pm a picture of yourself I bet you are attractive. 90% of women are very beautiful with or without makeup.
I definitely don't look like a spam bot.
The last time I used Tinder I didn't message anyone first because I wasn't very committed to meeting people. I was on there mostly just in case someone amazing convinced me to date again (hey you never know!). But other times, I have messaged people first.
I'm not ugly, therefore it's highly likely you would think I'm attractive, based on what you've said. So no need for a pic
But I'm certainly not 'mainstream hot'. Wouldn't want to be, either!