Self improvement to attract others

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That's Doogie Howser.

It's played by a guy who is now quite a successful comedian.

I am with you guys!
Only when I took full responsibility for my life that's when things started improving, when I stopped blaming my parents, my country, the world I live in, men I met, my boss, my education.
It's all on me, I made bad decisions before.
Yes, obviously there are people who have it easy, they have support, they have their s**t together by 40 because they didn't face difficulties I did. But I never gave up to improve, to keep going and never will!

Change is going to take years, you have to accept that, there's no easy way out. Sly and Markniss can hope that a girl will miraculously appear and will love them forever but I don't think it will happen and all those years they are wasting for writing posts here, they could do something useful. Go back to the gym for example. It didn't work once? So what? Keep moving!
I started going to the gym last September and until January the scale just didn't move. At all! I started losing weight only after 5 months.

Yes, change is painful and hard and difficult but people should realise that nobody will do that for you. You have to do it yourself. It takes a lot of energy yes, but you know what. I always ask myself the question
do I want to live like this for 5 or 10 more years? If the answer is NO then I think the solution is obvious.

You have to invest time and energy in you. Nothing will change in a month.
Also I agree on the self-fulfilling prophecies. If you keep telling yourself you are worthless, people will pick up on it and they will treat you like garbage.

And I will close my ramblings with a quote from a boss I hated but he was right.
Excuses are BS!

f**k yeah, CC!

I went for a 7km run in near freezing temps just before sunset yesterday.

Happy Wednesday to all, hope you're making progress on whatever your goals are this week!

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

7 KM run? How is that even possible? Walking 7 KM is easy but running?

That's just a result of training, people run marathons longer than that. It doesn't seem that outrageous.

Us straight guys can still attract the ladies with our dad-bods

Posts like these make wrong planet stand out from other aspie forums.

Anyways yes self-improvement does wonders. The single best thing for your mindset is to cut contact from toxic people, especially family members. You know the ones who like to give "constructive criticism" but never go out of their way to help you without expecting anything in return. The people who like to seed doubt into your mind and claim they are just "rational" or "realistic." And of course the people who dismiss or discredit your accomplishments to remind you of your "privelage" or like to "put things in perspective."

Are the other aspie forums really that bad?

Mine haven't been physical as much as my inner self. I'm trying really hard to focus on my hobbies and making sure I do things that benefit other people's lives and mine at the same time like volunteering which I really am trying to do.

I'm trying to step out of my comfort zone and give what potential friends enjoy a chance. The outdoors are a good example (kayaking and hiking).

Appearances are equally important though. I am trying to wear clothes that I like to wear and making sure the outfit doesn't look like it was put on last minute, getting my hair done, showering regularly and putting on makeup.

I am working hard to stay within a calorie limit and making healthy choices when I go out to eat.

I used to run 20 kilometers to work twice a week.

I was training for the marathons I ran.