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Pinkbearsothereyeball
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15 Feb 2018, 3:34 pm

I'm married to someone who has been diagnosed with ASD for over a decade.

That isn't why I'm here.

Over the years various things have happened, from working in sports, studying psychology, working for an Autism Support group at another university and winging the training there based on what I thought was pretty obvious, a variety of things have caused me to join.

I started to wonder if I might have Aspergers after reading various things and tallying things up. One thing is I am messy, although I can organise specifics, and to me it isn't chaos Iknow where things are in the heaps of stuff. It becomes chaos and distressing when someone else moves something.
It drives my poor husband who was diagnosed ages ago insane, I do try. He says 'Can't you see it?', sometimes I have to admit I can't, I don't think it is that bad.
Really this is the main thing we argue about.

I came here because I wondered if 'messy' people were on the spectrum. My husband is tidy and I think he thinks that my messiness and an ASD diagnosis are mutually exclusive.

Good to meet you all.



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15 Feb 2018, 5:25 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet! :)


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15 Feb 2018, 5:48 pm

Hi! There are all sorts of people on the Spectrum. Stick around and I hope you will find the answer. Welcome!


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16 Feb 2018, 3:48 am

Greeting and Salutations, welcome to the Wrong Planet.


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16 Feb 2018, 5:05 am

I have always found myself to be 'different' than other people.
My name is Bob and I am Aspie. I was diagnosed as Aspie in 2015, (145 of 200) from a certified clinical psychologist who was qualified in Autism testing.
He said to me 'Bob, I think you might be on the Autism Spectrum, your test came back as High Functioning.'
I had never heard of Autism but when I think back I had met a family in Mackay who made a statement, 'our son will never know that we love him.'
It seemed to me that their son was in fact very intelligent and I was not able to see anything other than a very bright and alert 20 yo.
So getting back to my diagnosis, I spent months and months checking out youtube video's on the subject of HFA. I joined an Autistic group in Townsville and went to every social meeting with them, and I continued to cross question myself regarding my life up to the point I was diagnosed.
I did struggle with acceptance of myself for about one year or so, but then it hit me, the penny dropped, I am Aspie and I have always been Aspie.
I think that a quote I read on the internet sort of made the penny drop and it goes something like this; 'what was the highest mountain on Earth before Mount Everest was discovered?'
Of course the answer is: Mount Everest. The point being; BEFORE IT WAS DISCOVERED.
So now I am 58 years young and the year is 2018 and I have come to understand that I have so many wonderful qualities, I do not compare myself with famous Aspie's such as http://www.asperger-syndrome.me.uk/people.htm as I am comfortable with who I am.
Sure I have my meltdowns which are due to overload, and that leads to exhaustion, and I lack social skills, but I accept these facts and look to my positives.
Bottom line is: if you have seen one Aspie then you have seen one Aspie. Be happy with who you are no matter what you believe about yourself; you are so very special.
I would not change who I am for the World.



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16 Feb 2018, 5:40 am

Welcome to WP. :D


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