The thing you should take away from that quote is that you cannot deny your own nature, changing oneself is hard, i have tried and only succeeded a bit. Habits and personal quirks die hard. Losing weight is probably easier than changing your personality.
I try to be open and non judgemental towards people, but everything inside me screams "so, wtf is wrong with this person that sits in front of me"? It's the my life experiences that are talking like that, and i'm rarely let down by it.
Be more girly? Possible, i guess "Cannibal corpse" means that you have good taste in music, and wear lots of black. A thing you can try is to tone the metal clothing down (if you wear such apparel), i had my Trash/Death metal phase and EBM phase as well, but i do not wear studded belts and Slayer t-shirts, but i often wear black, neutral clothing, nowadays (mostly because i like to stay warm during the summer). It is a part of me that like the dark side and not the happy-rainbow-bunny side of life, optimists make me sick and that is why i work with IT-Security.
One thing i did was to stop excluding positive music from my life, i.e. i went on from Strapping Young Lad to DTP and embraced happier music. Some of that did change my personality, if you go around and only listen to negative stuff, it will affect your personality.
I'm not sure if it applies exactly to you, but what i am trying to say is this - don't deny your nature, embrace it and evolve it at the same time.
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"It is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring" (Carl Sagan)
18 Feb 2018, 5:13 pm
