Marknis wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I know my older brother is in a bad marriage and he wishes he could trade places with me but I wouldn't wish my extreme loneliness on anyone.
It's likely neither of you understands the full depth of the other's misery.
He can still navigate the messed up Bible Belt social scene so I think what I go through is worse. He still throws parties even at his age and his profession is going to give him redneck points while I hardly ever get to socialize with the few friends I have and even if I started my own business, rednecks and other Bible Belt morons would find ways to make me lose it.
I'm not sure you caught the point since your response indicates you either missed it or ignored it, so I'll clarify.
He likely doesn't understand just how miserable and lonely and defeated you feel. He just sees your situation as 'fixing' his.
But at the same time, you likely don't understand just how horrible it is to feel trapped in a horrible marriage that's half-anchor and half-prison. But, for someone who desperately wants a relationship, it's easy to see his situation as enviable since it would 'fix' your concern.
If neither party can understand how bad it is for the other, both will insist they have it worse than the other.
Definitely if he's more socially capable he'd be better equipped to find the next one, but I'm sure if he was stuck single for years on end he'd stop wishing he could be in your position more than his own.
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