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Sounds like a human thing to me rather than an autistic thing.
Are you interacting with their posts? If not, it may be a case of them not wanting to interact with you because you don't interact with them, just shyness really. Instagram has a terrible algorithm though, unless your post gets a lot of likes within the first however many minutes of posting, it gets shunted to the bottom of everyone's feeds, so it may be more a case of they are not seeing your posts. Also, unless they are of a high aesthetic quality, they are likely to get scrolled past because Instagram is full of very well-taken photographs and a badly-lit unedited picture that doesn't look pretty at first glance is likely to be ignored. The standard is very high on Instagram. I get that it makes you paranoid though, it would do the exact same thing to me.
alpacka wrote:
If I choose to delete all these ghostfollowers, I will be interpreted as excessively sensitive and that's nothing I want stand up for and defend myself in the future either because it sound just stupid and I don´t think these people would understand. I know people thinking that social media is just silly and not that important, but it´s actually something we do these days to communicate and to value each other so it´s not that minor either.
I completely understand that, I don't think it's stupid. People like to pretend that social media is something we can choose to participate or not participate in but in reality, if you don't join in, you often end up missing out in real-life things as social media is how people arrange to meet up, often how they come across each other in the first place these days and how they turn acquaintances into friends. Starting a conversation with somebody requires you to have something to discuss, commenting on their social media post is interaction between the two of you that doesn't require this - there's already a subject matter and a conversation started. I would have had a lot less of a real-life social life when I was a teenager if it weren't for Facebook.alpacka wrote:
Sometimes I think this evasive behavior has to do with the fact that I do not have a job and that people like to judge me from it. Everyone who gets many likes and comments are people who work and have a family, for me who has none of it, it's easy to go aside.
I worry about this too, I don't have a job either and people don't seem to understand that this is none of their business.alpacka wrote:
So, how do you handle rejection on social media?
By feeling crap about myself 
I also don't understand why people feel the need to comment on threads where they can't relate. You're not adding anything to the conversation, it seems arrogant of you to think anyone would care that you couldn't relate, but this being an autistic forum I understand that it may be something else rather than ego. Possibly just a need for completeness, somebody asks a question, there is an answer, so you do answer? I see it a lot here.
22 Feb 2018, 8:51 pm
23 Feb 2018, 9:16 am
DancingQueen wrote:
Sounds like a human thing to me rather than an autistic thing.
Are you interacting with their posts? If not, it may be a case of them not wanting to interact with you because you don't interact with them, just shyness really. Instagram has a terrible algorithm though, unless your post gets a lot of likes within the first however many minutes of posting, it gets shunted to the bottom of everyone's feeds, so it may be more a case of they are not seeing your posts. Also, unless they are of a high aesthetic quality, they are likely to get scrolled past because Instagram is full of very well-taken photographs and a badly-lit unedited picture that doesn't look pretty at first glance is likely to be ignored. The standard is very high on Instagram. I get that it makes you paranoid though, it would do the exact same thing to me.
I also don't understand why people feel the need to comment on threads where they can't relate. You're not adding anything to the conversation, it seems arrogant of you to think anyone would care that you couldn't relate, but this being an autistic forum I understand that it may be something else rather than ego. Possibly just a need for completeness, somebody asks a question, there is an answer, so you do answer? I see it a lot here.
Are you interacting with their posts? If not, it may be a case of them not wanting to interact with you because you don't interact with them, just shyness really. Instagram has a terrible algorithm though, unless your post gets a lot of likes within the first however many minutes of posting, it gets shunted to the bottom of everyone's feeds, so it may be more a case of they are not seeing your posts. Also, unless they are of a high aesthetic quality, they are likely to get scrolled past because Instagram is full of very well-taken photographs and a badly-lit unedited picture that doesn't look pretty at first glance is likely to be ignored. The standard is very high on Instagram. I get that it makes you paranoid though, it would do the exact same thing to me.
alpacka wrote:
If I choose to delete all these ghostfollowers, I will be interpreted as excessively sensitive and that's nothing I want stand up for and defend myself in the future either because it sound just stupid and I don´t think these people would understand. I know people thinking that social media is just silly and not that important, but it´s actually something we do these days to communicate and to value each other so it´s not that minor either.
I completely understand that, I don't think it's stupid. People like to pretend that social media is something we can choose to participate or not participate in but in reality, if you don't join in, you often end up missing out in real-life things as social media is how people arrange to meet up, often how they come across each other in the first place these days and how they turn acquaintances into friends. Starting a conversation with somebody requires you to have something to discuss, commenting on their social media post is interaction between the two of you that doesn't require this - there's already a subject matter and a conversation started. I would have had a lot less of a real-life social life when I was a teenager if it weren't for Facebook.alpacka wrote:
Sometimes I think this evasive behavior has to do with the fact that I do not have a job and that people like to judge me from it. Everyone who gets many likes and comments are people who work and have a family, for me who has none of it, it's easy to go aside.
I worry about this too, I don't have a job either and people don't seem to understand that this is none of their business.alpacka wrote:
So, how do you handle rejection on social media?
By feeling crap about myself I also don't understand why people feel the need to comment on threads where they can't relate. You're not adding anything to the conversation, it seems arrogant of you to think anyone would care that you couldn't relate, but this being an autistic forum I understand that it may be something else rather than ego. Possibly just a need for completeness, somebody asks a question, there is an answer, so you do answer? I see it a lot here.
Thank you for your interesting post.
Yes, I'm always engaged in those I follow on social media so it can´t be that. I know many who never engage in others as many people are tired of, it´s natural that you get tired of someone who never cares in return. People that had never liking or commenting my pictures ever I avoid these days, it´s no point to be engaged if the other one really don´t care at all.
Algorithm was interesting, I did not know it was working that way, thank you for informing me about it.
I do not post bad pictures without thinking of lightning and I don´t upload pics that are too common or something I already posted many times. I'm not the type who post pictures on my breakfast (if it´s not something exclusice like from a hotel or something) or selfies, for example.
There are always a lot of reasons why people ignore someone but unfortunately I still think of this being unemployed and standing outside society-thing, that is something people like to keep away from. It´s like when you are being sick or mentally down, people just avoid because it´s easier for them. I think that may be the biggest reason, but I hope I´m wrong.
It´s nice that you understand me when it comes to those people who have to write that they can´t relate/don´t care at all. It's really "tough" to sit behind a screen and be cheeky, but what do they get out of it? If you do not have anything constructive to say except in the contrary and just looking for trouble please leave, I wish that these people will disappear and create their own topic instead so they could sit there and talk about how little they understand or care about different things (have fun folks!)
Social media is very interesting to talk about and it´s really something "all" adults use or tried at least once, it's never childish because of that big amount of adult users and it is also pure course to make interpretations based on how one's friends and acquaintances behave there.
I would have like to talk to people who can tell their own stories or experiences of social media without the people who just want to mess around.
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28 Jun 2018, 11:50 am
BeaArthur wrote:
Here's an alternative reason why people might ignore your posts.
I decided years ago that I didn't want to see status updates of any of my Facebook friends. Instead I put all of them (except immediate family) on Unfollow mode (they remain "Friends" but I don't see their posts in my news feed). Then I use Facebook to join groups of interest to me, and I read only the group posts.
So if you were my Facebook friend I would never even SEE your posts or shares.
Does this mean I don't value your friendship? No. It just means I choose how I would like my Facebook experience to work.
I decided years ago that I didn't want to see status updates of any of my Facebook friends. Instead I put all of them (except immediate family) on Unfollow mode (they remain "Friends" but I don't see their posts in my news feed). Then I use Facebook to join groups of interest to me, and I read only the group posts.
So if you were my Facebook friend I would never even SEE your posts or shares.
Does this mean I don't value your friendship? No. It just means I choose how I would like my Facebook experience to work.
Yes thats possible! But I only have Instagram and I dont think there is some ignore button there as you describe on FB. I rarely post either. I refer my post to friends that really ignore your post but are active on others, same minutes as you and these person uploaded something the friend jumps over your post and liking or commenting someone else.
And I know, there is off course no rule that everyone MUST like friends pictures, but I meant when friends actually do this all the time. To me it obvious they avoid but I would they rather delete me then ignore me
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