I'm 13 and have a question about Autism

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It's good to know your time together with the horses went well.

As above, a lot of people are wary or scared of what they don't understand, but sometimes they just want to avoid things they don't wantto deal with due to being lazy. While it's good to try and educate others, this can be hard work too. These things take usually take time, the key, on whether to make the effort or not is if people are willing to learn and open to changing their opinions. You can lead a horse to water...
You need to do what feels right to you and try not to be frustrated if making progress goes slower than you would like it to.

With regards to moving to the ranch, again it will take time for a solution to be found. Try to be patient, I know that can be hard. I'm not sure if it's appropriate to offer suggestions on the subject. I'll leave you to choose if you want discuss it more

I think it's fine to offer the family suggestions about the ranch as long as we do it in a considerable and respectful way. They are only suggestions and they can take them or leave them. And it might help them come up with solutions that they might not have thought of otherwise.

well today we are tractoring again as DJ says, I give up on figuring him out, not giving up on him just figuring him out.JD wants to ride with me raking which is cool he picked me but after we started he decided he wanted the windows open. First, it is like 102 outside, second it is dusty, and third, it is loud when you open the window on a tractor the rake makes a lot of noise as you can see well hear.

He does take after me in one way after about an hour he was in the floor asleep I all ways did that when I was little too.I'm not sure I get it but he is almost like a different kid on Grandpa's farm he more outgoing well he is more curious I guess, when we get home he goes back to his his world in the den and his room it is like being around to different kids

Just one last thanks I learned a lot and would like to think what I learned here, help me and JD learn about each other I think without what I learned here. I would still just feel like I had this weird little kid I had to live with and I was a little scared of. I will update from time to time if anyone would like, but as mom says never overstay your welcome.

That's cool he opens up more out at the ranch. I'm told I'm a lot more open outdoors and soon as I get home I withdraw into my room. I'd say you have gotten a pretty good understanding so far and quickly. As far as overstaying your welcome, someone shoulda told me about that almost 5 years and 15000 posts ago

Ok so new question I keep reading terms like NT and so on when people talk about Autism so where can I see a list of definitions because it is like a foreign language sometimes

The word neurotypical, NT, originally meant anyone who is not Autistic. Now the word Allistic means anyone who is not Autistic. And now the word neurotypical, like Ezra explained, means anyone who has a brain and neurological system that developed normally. The definition was changed because there are many other conditions that can make someone have an atypical (not typical) brain and neurological system. Not all neurodiverse people will be Autistic. Neurodiverse is a word used to describe the fact that there are many people who have conditions that make their brains and neurological systems different, not just Autistic people. So in the world of atypical neurology, there is a lot of diversity.

If you have a list of words or concepts that you would like us to explain to you, definitely post them and we can do that. In fact, it would be great to start a new thread that is for these kinds of definitions.

I love that you think that this is like a different language. Often times when Autistic people talk to neurotypicals, even if we are speaking the same actual language like English or French, we feel like we are speaking different languages because most neurotypicals speak from a social point of view which most Autistic people cannot understand well and most Autistic people speak from a more logical and literal point of view which many neurotypicals cannot understand well. But Autistic people are always expected to somehow figure out what NTs are saying even though NTs are not always expected to figure out what Autistics are saying. So it makes it hard because it can be very exhausting for us to be constantly trying to understand what nts are saying. It is almost like speaking a different language all the time. So it is great that you are feeling a bit lost in the way that we communicate. It helps you have a tiny understanding of what it is like for us most of the time. And most nts will not help us to understand them, they just expect us to understand them without any help at all. So now that you are in that position, it will help you have a deeper understanding and more compassion for Autistic people.

I love how you are learning about Autistic people. Many people just rely on their doctors and therapists to teach them about their Autistic children and never ask actual Autistic people how we really are. A lot of the doctors and therapists are not Autistic themselves so even though the can often give great and helpful advice, they can never know how it actually feels to be Autistic. But you asking questions to us is really fantastic. Your maturity level and compassion and pure heart actually remind me of Ezra when he was your age. Ezra is also wise beyond his years, even from when he was a young kid, (now he's an old kid ) and he has a heart of pure gold as well just like you. I am so glad that both of you are here.

I am socially awkward person. I always think why I am not able to behave like others. And I suspect that there is something wrong with me socially. After doing some research I am pretty sure that I have a lot of autistic symptoms. I will go for the diagnosis at clinic. But one thing I want to know, Is there any problem if I found on autistic spectrum?Can I live like I was living before?