We as Aspies should stop trying to make friends/relationship

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So, are you saying that the real message here is to be absolutely lonely? Cutting off our bonds with our beloved companions for the rest of our lives? Who's going to care for us when we get old?

I was just reading this Rick:

https://www.wikihow.com/Accept-Social-I ... ndividuals

I think that we shouldn't force relationships (of any kind) as in we shouldn't chase after people who don't want us. But if someone wants to be friends we should try meet their needs too. If someone is being considerate to me it's only fair for me to act the same to them.

Here is a video that I am watching

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SR23MmKTbn4

For most of my life I've greatly enjoyed the prospects of long term solitude. I don't hate my friends though there are times when I get sick and tired of their bs legit.

Kind of agree there.

Relationships have been a bit of luck for me, which initially formed based on looks as i'm not that bad looking. I used what I had learned and the fact I could grow to be a bit comfortable around them over time. No matter how comfortable I felt though, I always found it so tough when they went into deep conversation about something or spoke loads about their work and things like that.

Friendships though.... nah.... I think it isn't even down to me but people who are the problem.....

Too many people find symptoms funny or consider people who seem a bit different as weird and not worthy.

I'v been there too many times, from a girl serving at a coffee shop who thought me breaking eye contact to process what she just said was funny (she was laughing and not in a good way as she chuckled to her mates after about me being a weirdo) to people at a pub getting angry with me thinking i'm being patronising.

Friendships feel like a losing battle because it isn't based on liking my looks or the clothes I wear. It's about the social skills.

First impressions always count as well. No normal person thinks "He seemed like a weirdo, but let's give him another chance". It's nearly always that 1 shot chance and if it's blown, that's it.

As for me, as an Asbergian I don't really want friends. They are too much hard work. Exhausting actually. Would be perfectly happy with regular online chats, sharing interesting stuff. I think it's okay not to have that sort of intense relationship that is considered essential by others, that is just not our style. I think we need to do friending differently.

I'm almost 50 and aside from my wife, sister and Dad I have no real friends and haven't for the last 17 years.

I had a group of friends in high school, a merry band of misfits we, and then retained about four of those friends onward, some of whom became roommates in college, etc. Two of them remained good friends and then just one and then I moved away and then....none.

I've been very busy the last 17 years with holding down a job, a marriage and for the last 12, a family.

I've never really had a strong desire during this time to form new friendships. I'm not entirely sure why. Time is the biggest thing I guess. It's all I can do to juggle the work, married and home life and try to be even remotely successful at the three. I really don't think I'd feel all that differently if I were single and without kids since chatting occasionally with co-workers and interacting with strangers in public (e.g. grocery store, etc) seemed to be plenty of human interaction for me when I was a single adult. My solitary activities gave me far more enjoyment for the most part as they did all the way back to preschool when I apparently only wanted to play with blocks and toys by myself with NO desire to play with others.

It seems to be that a common belief is that ALL humans need and crave human interaction or they wither and die. I'm not sure that's true.

Give up if you like, I'll never stop trying.

Another thing I have issues with in regard to social interaction:

I'm TOTALLY for anyone (ASD or not) who has difficulty with social interaction and desires to work to become better at those things in order to interact more with others to be able to reach such a goal. Working at getting better with communicating with people (eye contact, non-verbal cues, etc) so they can expand their "circle of friends" or whatever.

What if I don't care about expanding my "circle of friends"? Is there something "wrong" with me? What if I'm happy with my life as it is and I'm tired of trying to maintain the effort to "master social skills" because that's what people are supposed to do?

It irks me that there seems to be a prevailing idea in culture that if a person is not adept at social interaction that they're broken and should be "fixed" otherwise they won't be happy. I say WRONG. I don't think I'm broken and I don't think I need to be fixed and I find value in how I experience life. Life to me is full of ups, downs and everything in between. It's an amalgamation of: good, bad and ugly, wonderful and terrible, happiness and contentment, pain and suffering. depression and elation, accomplishment and failure, on and on and on.... I'm content generally with statis as a constant.

I don't think I'm superior for not feeling defective for not having a burning desire to make new friends just as I don't think anyone should think I'm inferior for not having a desire to make new friends to interact with face to face. That's my point.