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yealc
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06 Aug 2005, 8:58 am

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Mom said that even as an infant, if she or someone else tried to pick me up, I would scream and resist. People other than my parents would be suprised by this, they had never seen this before in a baby. No one though in 1979 knew about tactile defensiveness.


I am so happy to have found somewhere that someone else says tactile defensiveness. I used this term at work the other day and they went What?

Anyway I hate to be touched by anyone I don't know very well and that I don't trust. I am however, a hug junkie for my husband's hugs. The one thing that will often calm me down is his hug. It is like a drug for me. Big issue is that he is extremely well trained to not show emotions and hugging is very uncomfortable for him. We have however, learned to compromise.


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06 Aug 2005, 11:29 am

Here's something that helped me become more comfortable with touching.

I've been taking dance classes (partner dancing) for a little less than two years by now. Since you can't dance with someone without touching them, it helped me become really accustomed to "social touching". I still get a little uncomfortable when someone I'm not too familiar with (like a co-worker) touches me, I'm much more comfortable with it now. Maybe it'll work for some of you too.



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09 Aug 2005, 5:58 pm

I like a nice hug or a pat on the back, but I HATE it when people try to guide my hands. It doesn't happen very often, but when it does, watch out!



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10 Aug 2005, 6:51 am

I hate being touched, but only by my mother, strange people that I don't like the aura of, and people I don't like. My mother would keep telling people that I dodn't like anyone to touch me. At all. Ever. Of course when I'd correct her, she'd never listen. :x She would even go so far as to say "What will you do if you ever get a boyfriend?" Well, I have one, and I get bothered if he doesn't touch me.



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17 Aug 2005, 12:05 am

Have multiple paradoxical responses to physical contact-sensation feels good but thoughts & emotions feel disturbed. Very particular about small details, aware of many bothersome aspects.
Dx'd w/ Asperger's only recently, but was "normal" affectionate child. As a grownup can finally distance from relatives that I used to be obligated to be affectionate with. Now can decide I want to be physically close with certain friends (they don't dismiss my needs/preferences).


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17 Aug 2005, 1:40 am

I hate unnecessary physical contacts. And in about one hour, I will be in my office where I will have to kiss good morning at least six people, including my boss! This country -France- is obviously the wrongplanet for an aspie :lol:


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