Very interesting, thank you for posting it.
As far as the relationship thing goes, I am a female and have been in a few, I'm in one currently actually. But I never initiated it, or really cared one way or the other to be honest... it sounds bad, I know, lol-I'm not the type that will jump in bed with anyone, but I can be very intrigued by someone quickly, and I guess that's what prompted me to say "okay".
I was never overly enthusiastic from the beginning, and often felt extremely detached... because I have almost all male friends, that becomes a pretty big nuisance in a relationship because jealousy always seems to come into play at some point, and the fact that I am so withdrawn complicates that even more.
I've never gotten the obsession with the person-it's odd, but they are almost always just seen as a friend or acquaintance even for me, and when they ended, I was the one to leave. Granted most of them were horrible, I was clinging onto the little bits that made sense just to prevent the change, it wasn't even about staying with the person... once those were gone, I was out... or I'd hit a point of just being bored all around and it was pointless then to even be there.
I think most of my problems come from my analyzing, and the general assumption that a lot of guys make about girls being so emotional. So when I was having a meltdown or was analyzing and coming across wrong apparently, it was always a huge problem that threw me into a typical category, so to say.
Even in my current situation, which is in many ways better than the others, he's at a loss with me a lot of the time, and has already said he doesn't know if he can deal with it forever. Just the fact that I respected and accepted that extremely easily I think made him a bit insecure. He also has problems with me getting more thrills out of intellectual stimulation than cuddling or anything of that nature, because he thinks I can get that anywhere.
Sorry to go on and on, just kind of analyzing-I am not sure really how it is different for males, and I guess am analyzing my own situation because I am not sure how it is for you guys. (thinking out loud... or while typing, lol, I guess I should say.)
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Sorry for the long post...
I'm my own guinea pig.