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Rocker82
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17 May 2009, 7:41 pm

Three and half years ago,I asked a female co-worker out,but she told that she is going out with some guy and she said to me that if it doesn't work out she'll try me.You know what they became boyfriend and girlfriend,and another thing that shocked me:the guy worked in the job facility!That me feel awkward and angry seeing this.So I quit my job.If anyone wants to pull this stun of asking out a co-worker,your doing a huge risk!



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18 May 2009, 11:22 pm

alexbeetle wrote:
DON'T DO IT!

It is not good idea to date people you work with.
4 weeks is not a long time regarding being friends with a work colleague and then asking out. If it was a social situation then 4 weeks of 'choosing' to talk regulary is more of an indication but it is work and so it is captive environment.
She/you will probably be embarassed to see each other everyday if she turns you down and it could make you unhappy to go to work
Enjoy the friendship and see how things go over a much longer time. If she is interested then the conversations etc will continue and she may even ask you out.


I agree. I dated someone I work with awhile back, then we broke up. Things have been weird between us since. I guess it depends on if you work in the same department, or see each other everyday, though.

The one good thing about meeting people at work is that you get to know the real them, without the pressure of a date.



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19 May 2009, 4:02 am

I can almost promise you waiting is a defense mechanism for you (and a potentially very harmful one), and the longer you wait, the lower your chances are of getting her. If you are going to do it the time is now. If she has any interest in you it is now, if you have any chance with her what so ever it is now, and if you don't want to needlesly torture yourself over these feelings do so now. Ask her out the next time you see her. Time kills.

And yes, I know much easier said than done, but what is say is the probable fact.



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01 Jun 2009, 10:45 am

I know this is old but don't do it!! I am living proof that your life becomes 10x harder when dealing with the work place and love. I feel so stupid and I found this great girl that I absolutely loved. Ive only felt this way for a girl maybe once or twice and I am 28 but I tried to put too much effort into it and she got out of 9 year relationship. Well what happened is she freaked out on me and jumped to a guy that sits in the cube right next to me who was pushing her away constantly and she was with him at the same time as me.

Eventually she grew to love him because he didn't care if she came or went! :( It hurt so bad and now I have to see them everyday and it really sucks. Man I feel like I am going to break down just talking about it. Thanks for the joke cruel world.



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01 Jun 2009, 11:42 am

Ouch, that really sucks.... It's a great warning for the OP.

If it's any consolation, just think that it wasn't meant to be. It's not even personal, you're just not right for each other. Just try to get over it (devalue her in your mind if you must), and then move on. Easier said than done, I know (oh too well), but you gotta do it.