Fell dumb regardless of your class rank?

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princess_1989
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23 Feb 2008, 3:25 pm

I am a high school senior who hates to see that people do better than me. I refuse to accept that there is always someone who is better than me at something. I am at the top 20% percent of my class. I refuse to accept anything less than an A+. I am always working really hard to improve. I hate failure more than anyone. I cry when I get a 90- a low A on a quiz. I just wish I was the best at everything just so I can feel that I am intelligent.



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23 Feb 2008, 5:24 pm

My best friend is the exact same way. And so is my roommate. I don't have much useful advise except you're not the only one out there who feels that way and maybe you should go speak to a therapist about it. All that stress isn't good for your body.



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23 Feb 2008, 5:43 pm

Heh, nope, I don't feel dumb. Though I have both physical disabilities along with AUTISM (HFA/MFA) which makes me just not worry. I don't care enough to care about my grades. The way I think is. You get what you get, Its all been pre-programmed by destiny, no I didnt say anything about "god" and I do not wish to introduce religion into this topic.

Personally, in my opinion, let go of it, or go to a therapist.


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23 Feb 2008, 5:55 pm

Gad..salutorian, valedictorian...I remember marrying a salutorian...her GPA was .0004 or something lower (yes, they really went that far out..;)

If you're in the top 10%, you can write your own ticket. Don't forget to do something besides studying, because colleges will look at that as well. Congratulations, I was in the middle 50%, and graduated 'cum diploma'...;)



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23 Feb 2008, 9:08 pm

I couldn't wait to get out of high school. I did well, I guess I was in the smart group. My friend was valedictorian and president of the honor society and in the music honor society, and my other friend was president of the music honor society while also being in the regular honor society. I never made it into either of those honor societies, I did get good grades but I didn't get care that much about perfection. To a certain extent you have to just let some things be. I just went to college early and was a junior in college by the time I graduated high school. But all of this does not mean anything. Hahaha. The valedictorian went on to Notre Dame and is bombing. My other friend is doing alright, but she has to worry more about money and how she is going to pay back college loans.

So grades aren't the end of the world. Even in college you can always re take a class and overall it really isn't a big deal.



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23 Feb 2008, 9:16 pm

I can accept grades in the 80-90% range but when I get anything lower, especially in math, I am desperate to fall in love with any girl that is better than I am (therefore I accept the idea that some people do better than I).

In physical education, where the passing grade is enough for me, I acknowledge my weakness.



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23 Feb 2008, 10:02 pm

Not really, I just work my heart out in schoolwork


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24 Feb 2008, 6:58 pm

I'm a perfectionistic. Without trying, I can get 80s, but this year, I really want to get 90s or higher and if it's in the 80s, I go "blegh." I tear up over bad grades though.



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24 Feb 2008, 7:41 pm

The thing is, while it's great to strive for success, at a certain point, crying over not being the best is silly. Sure, let's say you make the best grades in the school. All of the sudden, you're in college and you're with students that did much better grades. Then you're in grad school, and they'll be college students with much better grades, and so on and so on.

It's called being a big fish in a small pond. You can be the best within a small group like a school, but in the big scheme of things, there are others much better. Just do your best, and for God's sake, don't cry over grades.


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25 Feb 2008, 3:11 pm

One of the things I hate the most about myself is my inability to take anything less than perfection gracefully. Even if I'm at the top, I feel stupid because I know there are many people out there who can outdo me even if I don't have to deal with them.

If there is a persistent need in my life, it has been self validation through excellence in academics. It is a cancer on my soul.

Do what you can, excel where possible. It's ok to strive for perfection in your field of study, but it crosses the line to absurdity when you get upset at not being able to outdo majors in other fields at their own subject.


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28 Feb 2008, 10:58 pm

One thing I've realized is there are many different forms of intelligence. When you're in school, you tend to equate grades with intelligence. Outside of school, there are many other forms which are often more important. Concentrate on which forms you are lacking in, and work on those as well.

I know people at my uni with high GPAs that the professors will not allow on their research projects, because the form of intelligence that got them their high GPA did not carry over well to other things.

I also know people with mediocre GPAs who got hired by top companies because they have some of those other forms of intelligence. They were very active in groups, everyone knew who they were and everyone liked them. Not in a high school popular kind of way, but you can see how others gravitated towards them. They had social intelligence, not cocky, they knew how to talk to people, and treat people, and communicate with people. Some of them were kind of nerdy like many of us, but it didn't matter because they had "it"



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14 Mar 2008, 12:16 pm

princess_1989 wrote:
I am a high school senior who hates to see that people do better than me. I refuse to accept that there is always someone who is better than me at something. I am at the top 20% percent of my class. I refuse to accept anything less than an A+. I am always working really hard to improve. I hate failure more than anyone. I cry when I get a 90- a low A on a quiz. I just wish I was the best at everything just so I can feel that I am intelligent.
Oh, God! >< This is deja vu all over again for me....Dude, I was caught crying in AP Physics C: Mechanics last year (I'm a HS Sen Now) cuz I got a 97% on one of the tests. ><