Not getting jokes

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Usually i don't get jokes or i'm the last to understand them. Since childhood kids were asking me why i get so easily upset when they are just joking but i perceived them as an attack. I tend to take jokes very personally and i can't tolerate them at all. Sometimes i wonder if some people intent to be rude or they are just stupid and don't know who to be funny

my personal experience is that NTs don't joke, they just take making fun of someone's shortgivings as a joke, and expect us to catch on. Not saying I never do...

Is it the same in other cultures? I sometimes think 'classic' humour is dead, at least for anyone I'll meet.

I know this is very off-topic, but why do so many on WP bump threads that have long been dead.

Feb '08 to May '12 that's 4 years, 3 months dead!

Oh yes, I don't see a tangible difference between a 'rude' comment (which I bet Aspies get called on a lot) and what's considered joking - it just seems like when *I* do it, it's not OK.

I have a hard time with pictures that represent an analogy or a saying. The other day I saw a picture of some "buns in an oven" on facebook. This was obvious to others, the girl posting it were pregnant, but to me it was just some bread beeing prepared. It took me 20-30 seconds to get the joke / meaning, while asking my wife what it meant.

Another thing; "Behind the wheel" means that someone is driving a car, usually. And I know the meaning of that phrase, but still I get it wrong. I read a story where I imagined someone hiding behind one of those big wooden wheels on an oldfashion cart. I have a hard time grasping the meaning of a sentence when the meaning is derived from 60-120 seconds earlier in the story. This is a symptom of autism, so I shouldn't be surprised; "Individuals with an autism spectrum condition are impaired in achieving local coherence(meaning of a sentence in regards to the general theme of the converstation)."

I have had lots of incidents like this over the years, so I have developed a strategy to try to hide it. I just pretend its my sense of humor to pretend I dont understand it, and ask "silly" / "serious" questions when someone makes a joke. I'm probably not successful in fooling everyone, but hopefully a few. But now with an Aspergers diagnosis, people might understand me better.

..Irony, I use it to try to hide my ignorance, but I also have a hard time getting it.

I have a hard time with jokes. I often take them literally. Sometimes I do understand when someone's joking but then I have difficulties knowing how to respond. I also think sarcasm is a bit difficult.

I don't know about you guys, but I was always the class-clown as a kid. To this day I still make puns whenever I can think of them. My dad always thinks of the same puns a split-second after I do so when I say them he goes, "Dang, I was just about to say that."

I can usually detect sarcasm or facetiousness, but I do miss it on occasion, or there will at least be some doubt as to how I should interpret something. My brother does a good job at deadpan sarcasm/facetiousness in that I sometimes can't tell how to take it; with him, I usually just assume that he's joking. Also, I can be gullible, and I might not be able to tell that you're trying to fool me, especially if something seems plausible at first glance.

As for jokes, I am often slow to get them, and when I do, I might not think they're all that funny. So my response is a little like this:

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oh...Oh!

It takes me considerable time to realize something is a joke if I've never come across it, or a similar joking, before. It's exceptionally difficult for me to understand if someone is having fun at my expense until it's too late, which has been the case for so long that I'm always wondering now if that's what someone is doing. I'm better with sarcasm because I grew up in a family that was nonstop sarcastic, so I've learned the motions and patterns of typical sarcasm. I still miss it more often than I catch it though.

People notice, even people that are like me, and take advantage of it. I often feel stupid afterwards, hurt, and tend to slip back into hating people in general.