Not getting jokes
Usually i don't get jokes or i'm the last to understand them. Since childhood kids were asking me why i get so easily upset when they are just joking but i perceived them as an attack. I tend to take jokes very personally and i can't tolerate them at all. Sometimes i wonder if some people intent to be rude or they are just stupid and don't know who to be funny
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my personal experience is that NTs don't joke, they just take making fun of someone's shortgivings as a joke, and expect us to catch on. Not saying I never do...
Is it the same in other cultures? I sometimes think 'classic' humour is dead, at least for anyone I'll meet.
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Is it the same in other cultures? I sometimes think 'classic' humour is dead, at least for anyone I'll meet.
Nietzsche has a cool aphorism about jokes... "A joke is an epitaph on the death of a feeling."
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Is it the same in other cultures? I sometimes think 'classic' humour is dead, at least for anyone I'll meet.
Nietzsche has a cool aphorism about jokes... "A joke is an epitaph on the death of a feeling."
How true.
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Is it the same in other cultures? I sometimes think 'classic' humour is dead, at least for anyone I'll meet.
Yeah, when i tried to return their 'jokes' they didn't seem to be content. I hate this kind of people
Don't know how it is in other countries, but in my country is full of idiots.
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I have a hard time with pictures that represent an analogy or a saying. The other day I saw a picture of some "buns in an oven" on facebook. This was obvious to others, the girl posting it were pregnant, but to me it was just some bread beeing prepared. It took me 20-30 seconds to get the joke / meaning, while asking my wife what it meant.
Another thing; "Behind the wheel" means that someone is driving a car, usually. And I know the meaning of that phrase, but still I get it wrong. I read a story where I imagined someone hiding behind one of those big wooden wheels on an oldfashion cart. I have a hard time grasping the meaning of a sentence when the meaning is derived from 60-120 seconds earlier in the story. This is a symptom of autism, so I shouldn't be surprised; "Individuals with an autism spectrum condition are impaired in achieving local coherence(meaning of a sentence in regards to the general theme of the converstation)."
I have had lots of incidents like this over the years, so I have developed a strategy to try to hide it. I just pretend its my sense of humor to pretend I dont understand it, and ask "silly" / "serious" questions when someone makes a joke. I'm probably not successful in fooling everyone, but hopefully a few. But now with an Aspergers diagnosis, people might understand me better.
..Irony, I use it to try to hide my ignorance, but I also have a hard time getting it.
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I don't misunderstand this phrase as much as it sends me into rage - why do people need to call pregnancy something else? Or even, why use euphemisms at all?
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True. And when I hear one of their so called "jokes" for the 500th time, they have the nerve to say, "That was a joke, you can laugh now".
DOH, do you mind if I don't laugh? It wasn't very funny the first time I heard it, and it isn't getting any better.
Like you I am wordy, and when I am cozy socially, the puns spill out.
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Yep and it makes me mad because even when I say I got the joke they will laugh and say "she doesn't get jokes".
I can usually detect sarcasm or facetiousness, but I do miss it on occasion, or there will at least be some doubt as to how I should interpret something. My brother does a good job at deadpan sarcasm/facetiousness in that I sometimes can't tell how to take it; with him, I usually just assume that he's joking. Also, I can be gullible, and I might not be able to tell that you're trying to fool me, especially if something seems plausible at first glance.
As for jokes, I am often slow to get them, and when I do, I might not think they're all that funny. So my response is a little like this:
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Yeah, I think I would have gotten that one if there were, say, an ultrasound picture to go along with it, but without that context, I too would probably think of bread.