TW1ZTY wrote:
Nothing tears your self esteem down like being almost 30, still living with your mother, and not being allowed to do any of the things you want to do because she thinks she can run yoir life for you.
I'm 30 and my dad who ran away from any responsibilities when I was four told me off tonight.
He's schizophrenic/autistic and I always look after him not the right way around.
He said 'you're too old to be a rebellious teenager and too young for a midlife crisis so stop it'
Um well so was he at 26 when he ran off and left the country and never paid mum any maintenance. Every time he met me, she planned out a list of fun things to do together and he had a heated row with a waiter in a café.
Every single time. From 6 til 24 when I ditched him as anything other than someone to text. In my teens and 20s I was always apologising for him to the poor waiter who only asked if our food was ok or if he could bring us something more to eat.
All I was tempted to do was troll, not bullying trolling just was tempted to post on the WP 'fun things you did as a kid': 'became a terrorist, had lots of sex, killed someone and took drugs' just to see people's reactions. I didn't because 1 it's a sick joke and 2 it's an autism forum so someone might not get it's a joke. But I did put something dangerous I used to do which is funny. I used to go skating with my friend on the school playground and we deliberately sought out black ice and sometimes we fell over but it was so much fun.
I know he's ill but he knew it when he fathered me and he should have known that he wasn't cut out for fatherhood.
I lived with mum til this year, I'm 30. I'll always live in a house she paid for (except I paid rent at the average amount since I was 25 and I'll continue to do that forever unless my bank account empties) and now I live in a cabin in her garden.
Just (if you can) pay rent, express gratitude, and do your chores esp stuff kids would do like tidying your room but occasionally do things (if you can) like the laundry or taking the bins out etc. Even cooking which is something I find impossible because of my dyspraxia and fears. If you have the ability to, at least prepare your own meals. (I do this but they're sometimes really unhealthy like Pot Noodle).