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Here I am being an idiot again.
Yay, me.
I wonder that anyone wants to talk to me.

I just don't know what I've done wrong.
If they said, "I hate you as a person." that would be easier to accept than no feedback at all.
It's the not knowing that's difficult.
Then I could apologise for being an unacceptable person and move on.
Maybe even try to improve my approach in future.

Ok, that's my answer.
Why can't people be direct about these things?

I have a problem of the correct protocol of looking at people when talking to them. Ive been told I have an "unnerving, predatory stare"... and thats from one of my best friends! Its an eye contact thing, it makes people uncomfortable if you make unbroken eye contact but I find it hard knowing where to look.

I had another Urdu verbal communication experience -
I hit an animal. So I drove the car to a crash repair place I knew of to get a quote on the repair costs of the damage.
I went in and said "hi."
Two guys in the office looked up at me, then went back to their computers and completely ignored me. So I went over to the desk and said "Hi" again, and asked the guy if he could have a look at the car, as it was parked outside.
He looks up at me and stares for a second, then says "have a look?"
Yes. Have a look. That is your job, correct? To look at damaged cars, assess that damage, then provide a quote on how much the repairs will cost so your customer can enter into a transaction???
But instead I said yes, I hit an animal, and I'm trying to get a quote about the costs of repairs. He asks me if the car is insured. I reply that yes it is, however there is a $650 excess gap on the policy. If enacted, that amount would automatically have to be paid, and I'm not convinced the damage is that severe, being mainly cosmetic - busted (plastic) grill, smashed headlight covering, bent bonnet. Everything is still working - it drives ok, no fluid leaks, blinkers and headlight still working, no chassis damage that I can detect when driving.
So he comes out and looks at it.
Then he goes into this rant about how they don't do dodgy backyard jobs, as it's their company name on the repairs, if I was to get it fixed through them they'd be doing it "properly and completely," and if I wanted to just buy a bunch of spare parts and replace the damaged components, then I'd have to go elsewhere, and anyway, they're booked up until mid-October.
Did I say anything about a dodgy fix up job? No. I did not. And wtf kind of sales pitch is this? Accuse your customer of slighting your business when they haven't said a word, then try to run them off saying you're too busy???
At that point I figure verbal communication is as usual useless, and I'm like "Right. Ok. Thanks."
I report this to the relative the car belongs to, who was looking at me weirdly. He then says if I want to fix it I can because he's not capable of that and I am.
Which is incredibly bizarre as usually, these people think I am severely intellectually disabled, and last week thought it necessary to explain to me how to fasten velcro shoes. Now suddenly they think me capable of repairing the car.
I hate verbal communication. It makes NO sense.

Another one of those moments where someone says, "I said hello to you."
And I'm surprised because they don't even seem to be looking at me when they speak.
I actually looked behind me to see who they were talking to.
To me, apparently.
Only it wasn't apparent to me.

Wha??

What exactly is happening here?

^ Did that person know you are hearing impaired? If so that's incredibly rude. Even if they didn't know it's still rude.

^ I'd never met the person before.

Still, I can hear speech but I need to lipread to understand what they're saying.
This woman was looking over my left shoulder so I thought she was talking to someone behind me.
That's what confuses me.
From their POV they were being friendly and I turned my back on them and ignored them.

Another chapter in how to lose friends and alienate people.

I think I will give up talking to people.
It's too hard.
I offend people when I had no intention of giving offence so I think it's better for everyone if I don't speak at all.

When I get overwhelmed, sensory overload, am very stressed, tired, or experiencing a strong emotion, my communication abilities deteriorate rapidly. It gets harder for me to speak, so that try as I might, I can't speak loudly/clearly enough to really be understood, or it gets to the point that I can't even force my vocal cords into action at all. This is extremely frustrating because it doesn't happen all the time, so people hear me speaking well one time and assume I'm always capable of that and choosing not to, or just not trying hard enough. Seriously, no one I've tried to explain it to in person ever believes me. It's very frustrating and demeaning to try your best and keep being told it isn't good enough Even when I'm capable of speaking, I communicate much more easily and clearly in writing, although sometimes even then I have trouble finding words. I wish I could get away with communicating using a text-to-speech app on my phone instead of speaking, but my parents won't allow it and make me try to speak instead (if I had a penny for every time I heard "Use your words!" or "Speak, child!" I'd be rich). I try to communicate with gestures when I can't speak/can't find words, although I don't know sign language. I also have auditory processing issues and am good at misinterpreting what people say.