Aspie Women Attracted to "Bad Boys"?

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I don't know. I'll talk to guys for a bit and they seem normal, but once my trust issues are assuaged they all turn out to have bad stuff going on. Even worse with girls. Here's how it goes:

God: "Wow, you seem so nice and normal! I shall trust you!"

Other person: "Cool! Let me tell you about my secrets! When I was little I [RED FLAG], I like to [RED FLAG]. I also [RED FLAG] and [RED FLAG], because in high school [RED FLAG]. [RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG] kittens!

God: "I don't want intercourse that bad. I'm gonna go and put on my wimple."

And that's why I don't date.

Nope. I was never attracted to bad boys. Actually, I dated my DH because I thought he was such a "good boy"...hmmm...probably the fact I can't read people? But I used to tell everyone what a "good boy" he was...hmmm...he wasn't He's now what I thought he was, but he never really was...

I wouldn't say that I am attracted to bad boys.

but, I am attracted to men that I believe can protect me, whether physically or socially.

I am attracted to men who challenge me intellectually and for whom I can have some respect (they're self-sufficient and quietly confident). Sometimes this ends up being a "bad boy" but I hope that's just coincidence.