Finding Non-Superficial Women

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Well, first off, I love first person shooters! And secondly, I told a mutual friend of ours how I met Ricky and he decided to give it a whirl. He met his current squeeze on a dating website too! and she loves fps's also . Funny, huh?

There is a support group at my school, and the only female Aspie there was already in a relationship--and this is with my only criteria being that she be an Aspie. (she didn't meet any of the other criteria I was looking for)

The whole reason I moved to the Austin-San Antonio area was because there were no female Aspies in Wichita Falls, where I had previously lived.

Now my only hope is that somebody will just drop everything and move here for no reason.

Cyberman,
all female aspies I know of, including myself, are on the web and are not to be found much outside where there are groups and other people. When they got to the age of 18 or so, they had so many bad experiences with aggressive NT-males that they withdrew more and more from typically meeting places.
A good advice however is animal shelters, that's where many aspie women go because many of us love animals very much.
However, do try to have a longer letter contact with aspie women you meet in forums like this one. When, after a long while of writing, you have found enough in common, it will be no problem to hop on a plane for a visit.
And: typical aspie-women are not superficial by nature, they are rather intellectual, interested about what you have to say, not how you look. But we expect you to be the same and not an imitated-NT-adapted-type, we have enough of those around.

Tim in Texas: it's not unrealistic, to hope some aspie woman would move to your area - I would go anywhere in the world, why not? If I'd move 50 miles to another city, I'd have a totally new start there, I could move 5000 miles, it would be the same. (In your case you would just have to stop the hurricanes coming by..hm.)

Angie

I'm a woman who likes dating geek guys, and I have always met them through shared interests. I spent my college years in Austin, Texas and married my husband there, so this may be relevant to Tim as as much as the OP. Aspies abound in the Society for Creative Anachronism (and its less-historically-accurate cousin, Amptgard) as well as in the Anime Club at the University of Texas. I hear Mensa is also a place one can meet people who value intellect over superficial appearance. (Tim, I noticed when I googled your university that there is a chapter of College Democrats there. They even have a Myspace page.) Fan conventions are also good--ComicCon has a Simpsons/Futurama panel, and there are of course whole conventions just for Dr. Who, Cyberman...

I will mention that I frequent libraries, bookstores, cafes, and public transportation, and that I am never comfortable being approached by strangers in those surroundings. People are much more relaxed, and socializing is given some structure, at club meetings or events or when working together for a common goal (like sitting at an info table together for the College Democrats, or camping together at an SCA event) and therefore are more open to friendly and romantic overtures. If you're not very good at chatting girls up face to face, just make an initial comment that is witty or complimentary, and if she reacts positively then follow it up by GETTING HER EMAIL ADDRESS. Then you can woo her in a medium where AS won't hamper your eloquence.

Look, I'm not saying that all women who reject us are superficial, or that it's their fault... I'm just saying that we have a "better chance" if we focus on finding non-superficial women.

Yes, there are superficial women. But not all of them are. There are superficial men too. In fact I'd say some men are just as superficial if not more. You see it in today's media. Women are depressed if they don't match the slightest trends. Why? Because most men won't find them attractive if they aren't the correct weight or if they look what is considered "average" or "plain" looking. While it's all a matter of preference, the is no need to make anyone that doesn't match up feel ugly or unwanted. Yet it goes on every single day.

I guess I should sit back and prepare for the flaming I'm about to get. Let me at least get my fire extinguisher out first.

I agree 100% with you, Social_Fantom, but that is irrelevant to this discussion.

I didn't want this to turn into yet another gender war.

Ive found okcupid really good, all the people who have matched over 80% with me also (by strange correlation) have the same book tastes, overly liberal and intelligent. It good as you can see straight away if they hold the same world view as you and like the same things. It also gives personality awards so you can see if they are needy or dependant. One guy who was 88% match is just as emotionless and unfriendly as I am and I really enjoy chatting with him lol.

It really cuts out the problem of chatting to someone only to find you have nothing in common and having to reject them. I still get odd men who are in the army and 70% enemy emailing me but at least I can see that and wont get tricked by guys who cant even read claiming that they really love radio 4 just like me. You wouldnt believe the amount of rubbish Ive believed in the past!