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They are almost mirror images of each other. Most people with AS are men, while most people with BPD are women. People with AS have trouble relating to the world logically, whereas people with BPD have trouble relating to the world emotionally. Both aspies and people with BPD have meltdowns when they feel like they are spinning out of control.
I like Paul Isaac's Blog Doing versus Being.
I would ponder all this with my best mate called my highly volatile husband 'emotionally intelligent'. He was likely BPD but he was an older version of BPD with years of experience of living with his emotional rollercoaster. I was, I suppose, 'intellectually intelligent' being an older version of Aspergers (Dx). Ok his emotional extremes would set my aspie meltdown off like chucking a hot ember into a box of fireworks ! But in day to day life, he taught me emotional intelligence and I taught him how to be rational and patient. Like Captain Kirk and Spock. We were a great team.
Why did we buck the trend? and swap the male female roles? Cos of our upbringing (I was brought up by my classical apsergers father, he by a fiery mother) and because he had an outlet for his passion being a brilliant musician. I'm an academic scientist. To be fair I probably have BPD but nothing like his. He probably had ADHD. I feel its helpful to play around with these boxes if we treat them like Venn Diagrams.