Ladies: What's up with creepy men?

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I wanted to bring this thread back to it's original purpose of sharing and discussing.
Thank you for the show of support CRD. My pleasure

The 'men's room was changed into the InDepth Adult discussion and the Men's Forum is a thread in there, now. http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt101191.html If you want to contribute, post away, dude.

Merle

I am yet to have an overly creepy encounter in person, or if I have I was oblivious to it, as I tend not to leave the house much. I did have a really creepy incident online not to long ago. I was talking to someone I thought was a friend, and the conversations got more and more sexual in nature, until it was obvious he was more interested in my virginity than anything else. I blocked him on all my accounts right after I realized it. Thankfully he hasn't tried more than once to get in contact with me again.

Man I hate when that happens. The block button is a boon. <3

I don't know how many lives it has saved, but that button certainly is a life saver.

Amen to the block button. I had some creep chase me around in the world of warcraft a few years ago. Same basic story talked to me for a few days acted like he was my friend then started with the creepy crap asking about my built and was realy into the fact I had kids and wanted a picture of my strech marks ewwwwww. I have no idea what made him think that was ok to ask after talking about things like what kind of movies we liked ect.

And I thought I had a good idea of what creepy was... That's just sick and disturbing.

Welcome to the Internets..........

...unless they are *hoping* to get it on with that behavior. To tell you the truth, in such instances I'd touch her in return and try to get something going, though if she said "no" or pushed me away I'd respect her decision.

Ugh. tomboy, I don't consider myself a 'looker', and I'm also socially inept, and I can only conclude that for me, at least, it was the combination of me maturing quite early physically (I had a more or less adult figure by age 14), and being extremely naive about relationship and sex matters. I think that gives off vibes that a certain kind of guy can spot a mile off.

Most of the bad incidents, for me, were in my teens. Some lowlights of that time...

Age 14: I had older guys try and chat me up at some of the social functions my parents took me too - everyone there was usually much older than me. I had a 40-odd year old married truck driver grope me and try to snog me, and my folks (who were present in the same room) blame me for not telling him where to go.

Age 15: I had one of the kids' entertainers at a holiday camp kiss me on the lips and try to grope me after (being the oldest kid around) I helped him out with a magic show.

Age 18: One of my male cousins, whom I'd always been close friends with as a kid, came onto me, then, when he got fed up of trying to get me into bed, went round telling all my older relatives how I'd tried to seduce him. (You know the really hurtful thing? Most of them believed him.)

Then from age 18-19 I was a member of a dating agency, aka Creep Central. Turns out that checking the box for 'Meaningful relationship' quite often incorporates the clause 'Not meaningful enough for keeps, but will cop a feel anyway because, after all, I bought you dinner and drinks, right?' Some women might be equipped to tell the difference on sight...some can't.

There have been others, but basically after my first marriage (age 21, and he wasn't the most considerate of specimens either) I started to get wise to this kind of crap...and oddly, I don't seem to have been bothered since. I'd like to think I give off an air of greater confidence these days, but I think really it's maybe that I just look older.

I would say to the parents of Aspie girls, please, please equip your daughter for the real world. Mine just sort of hoped I wouldn't interact with it if they didn't tell me how. Things don't work that way.

I was in a bar, and this dead ringer for Charles Manson walks up to me and by way of flirting starts flicking his cigarette lighter on and off in my face. Until pretty recently, if there was a psycho within a five mile radius, he would find me.

I did when I was younger, not so much now. Not so cute anymore........... Now they seem to find me creepy.

Sadly, these creeps and the Viagra/retiree/rest home set are the only guys who approach or talk to me...

I get the same thing. Most of the time its not sexual but there has been a few moments.
I've noticed that with NT's they can give off a vibe that says leave me alone, but all I can do if someone speaks to me is smile pleasently and be as polite as I can. Creepy guys and a few creepy women seem to think this means that I want to speak to them, but really I just don't know how to finish a conversation that I don't want to be having. I know I'm just too polite for my own good.

Oddly enough, the ones approaching me aren't in a specific age range. If I were social I might have actually indulged a few of the guys my age. But dating situations are too confusing so I end up ignoring them or telling them I'm not interested. They usually leave me alone afterwards.

I wouldn't call them creepy, though...