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Miyah
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25 Dec 2008, 4:54 pm

I have never had a chance to date a guy and I have three girlfriends who have boyfriends right now. I am very happy for them but I notice that there is less time to do some girly time. First, on of them invited me to go bowling with she and her boyfriend tomorrow. However, I suggested to her that there is a bowling alley at a mall and we could meet there so I could get some good deals and still see her. However, she wasn't interested and I felt like it was cold. Not only that, I don't hear from my friends as much as I used too because they are occupied with them. I also saw this girl at the beginning of the month and we were having a good time, but it got cut shoty because he was calling her on the phone and she took off on me. Not that I was staying around any longer anyway but I still felt left out.



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25 Dec 2008, 5:24 pm

It's called "Pairing Off" and it is normal among NTs

Once two people get all snuggly-wuggly with each other, they tend to lose interest in the outside world.

Of course, your friend may have been trying to use you to test her boyfriend. If he paid attention to you, then she could "guilt-trip" him with jealousy. If he did not pay attention to you, then she could "guilt-trip" him for being rude to her friend (you). If he suggested a threesome, then she could dump him for being a perv.

... and so goes the NT world. :roll:


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25 Dec 2008, 6:17 pm

Fnord wrote:
It's called "Pairing Off" and it is normal among NTs

Once two people get all snuggly-wuggly with each other, they tend to lose interest in the outside world.


This can be true, especially in the early stages of a relationship. How long have these three friends of yours had these boyfriends? During the honeymoon phase couples do tend to ignore everyone else but once they settle down a bit you should see more of them later.

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Of course, your friend may have been trying to use you to test her boyfriend. If he paid attention to you, then she could "guilt-trip" him with jealousy. If he did not pay attention to you, then she could "guilt-trip" him for being rude to her friend (you). If he suggested a threesome, then she could dump him for being a perv.

... and so goes the NT world. :roll:


What the f**k? Posts like this are why LPP thinks I leap to the defence of every woman. What the hell has this girl done to deserve these suggestions? Is it cause she's an NT?

Considering how many people on here b***h about the prejudice we get from NTs, there's sure as hell a lot of anti-NT sentiment.



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25 Dec 2008, 6:36 pm

isn't it interesting there is so much anti-NT sentiment on WP.net.

I have never encountered it any other place, ever, in my life.

now, why do you think that is?

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25 Dec 2008, 6:47 pm

It's still hypocritical, which was my point.



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25 Dec 2008, 7:06 pm

JohnHopkins wrote:
It's still hypocritical, which was my point.


characterized by hypocrisy

Main Entry: hy·poc·ri·sy
Etymology: Middle English ypocrisie, from Anglo-French, from Late Latin hypocrisis, from Greek hypokrisis act of playing a part on the stage, hypocrisy, from hypokrinesthai to answer, act on the stage, from hypo- + krinein to decide — more at certain
Date: 13th century
1: a feigning to be what one is not or to believe what one does not ; especially : the false assumption of an appearance of virtue or religion
2: an act or instance of hypocrisy


So why is it hypocritical to not like NTs?
I don't get your logic for using hypocrisy, JohnHopkins

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25 Dec 2008, 7:17 pm

Fine, then it's contradictory. It's not right to act all righteous and hurt about NTs hating us simply for being disabled if we hate them simply for being NTs. It makes you as prejudiced as they are. (They only being the NTs who do this, because it's by no means all or even the majority.)



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25 Dec 2008, 7:22 pm

No no, all two of my girlfriends have AS and the other has holes in her ear drums and is a little lower than I am. In fact, I think I am just dealing with human nature all together. :lol:



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25 Dec 2008, 10:06 pm

could be worse...they could be so besotted with each other that they start trying to fix you up (or hook you up, or whatever they say now...;) with other guys...



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25 Dec 2008, 10:15 pm

pakled wrote:
could be worse...they could be so besotted with each other that they start trying to fix you up (or hook you up, or whatever they say now...;) with other guys...

I haven't heard of this. If anything, when my friends got into relationships they stopped talking to me about girls.



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26 Dec 2008, 7:55 am

JohnHopkins wrote:
Fine, then it's contradictory. It's not right to act all righteous and hurt about NTs hating us simply for being disabled if we hate them simply for being NTs. It makes you as prejudiced as they are. (They only being the NTs who do this, because it's by no means all or even the majority.)


JH you've been here for so long, surely you must know Fnord and his sarcastic ways by now :roll:

and BTW criticising NTs does not have to equal hating them.


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26 Dec 2008, 5:14 pm

Miyah wrote:
I have never had a chance to date a guy and I have three girlfriends who have boyfriends right now. I am very happy for them but I notice that there is less time to do some girly time. First, on of them invited me to go bowling with she and her boyfriend tomorrow. However, I suggested to her that there is a bowling alley at a mall and we could meet there so I could get some good deals and still see her. However, she wasn't interested and I felt like it was cold. Not only that, I don't hear from my friends as much as I used too because they are occupied with them. I also saw this girl at the beginning of the month and we were having a good time, but it got cut shoty because he was calling her on the phone and she took off on me. Not that I was staying around any longer anyway but I still felt left out.


In fairness, they invited you to join them bowling and might have already had a place in mind; you shouldn't have expected her to change plans just to suit you.



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26 Dec 2008, 6:02 pm

anna-banana wrote:
JohnHopkins wrote:
Fine, then it's contradictory. It's not right to act all righteous and hurt about NTs hating us simply for being disabled if we hate them simply for being NTs. It makes you as prejudiced as they are. (They only being the NTs who do this, because it's by no means all or even the majority.)


JH you've been here for so long, surely you must know Fnord and his sarcastic ways by now :roll:


I wasn't talking about just Fnord anyway.

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and BTW criticising NTs does not have to equal hating them.


But criticising them as a whole group is flat-out prejudice.



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26 Dec 2008, 6:55 pm

Miyah wrote:
the other has holes in her ear drums and is a little lower than I am.


I dont understand what you are saying here.



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26 Dec 2008, 7:41 pm

JohnHopkins wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
JohnHopkins wrote:
Fine, then it's contradictory. It's not right to act all righteous and hurt about NTs hating us simply for being disabled if we hate them simply for being NTs. It makes you as prejudiced as they are. (They only being the NTs who do this, because it's by no means all or even the majority.)


JH you've been here for so long, surely you must know Fnord and his sarcastic ways by now :roll:


I wasn't talking about just Fnord anyway.

anna-banana wrote:
and BTW criticising NTs does not have to equal hating them.


But criticising them as a whole group is flat-out prejudice.


yes, it is. Why does it bother you?

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