What Do Women Mean by the Word Respect?

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I gave this woman a call a couple of weeks ago to see if I could see her again. She was talking a bit quickly because she it was "getting on [her] nerves" that I called her back, but she said something about respect. If I didn't respect her, I wouldn't have any interest in seeing her again. In fact, I specifically respected her qualities of independence, openness, and candor. True enough, I may have gotten a little eager about wanting to see her again, but how does this indicate a lack of respect?

it is a vague term that changes meaning to fit whatever the person saying it wants it to mean.

I have no idea. Maybe it's just an excuse?

Respect:

Not begging for sex and asking for it all the time, not be mean, not put me down, not bully me, honesty, no hurtful sarcasm, following the rules, no road rage, no criminal behavior, not violent or have anger problems, respect my personal space, don't expect me to be on you every single minute, not expect me to be your schoffer, and not be dependant on others or me.



That's my definition of "respect."

When a woman mentions "respect" to you, ask her to define it.

I agree with others that she probably meant for you to respect her wishes and not bug her. Now, if she didn't specifically tell you, or didn't give you any kind of hints about not bugging her, then I don't know why she would say that.

It might also mean that she wishes you'd show more interest in her (i.e. by asking her how she is, what she's up to etc..) Most aspies I know are very bad at this (I used to be as well). Sometimes it's not enough to just listen, you have to appear to listen and aknowledge the other person and respect their feelings. Otherwise, it's a bit like talking to yourself (from her point of view).

(I'm guessing about the above; it's just based on my current experience.)

edit: on rereading, I'm afraid it does sound like she's not interested. Sorry.

She sounds bitchy, I wouldn't bother with her anymore if she's already throwing "respect" around.

Respect means acknowledging the other person's feelings and preferences.

It does not mean submission or letting him/her "walk all over you".

what, you mean you've never heard Aretha Franklin?

Respect has turned into a versatile word used by someone when they are feeling insulted or weak. Old example: "Respect the Colonel's authority or he will demote you" modern "Cant you respect my thoughts?" the later is simply common decency the former however is more mandatory, you see its much different now.