Making Aspie friends

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Would be nice to meet some aspies whom I can actually relate to, but they seem to be rare around here. Even rarer if they are female :-p.

OK thanks for all the responses I think I've come to some conclusions. I think it would be preferable to make other aspergian friends, but that you probably shouldn't rule out nt's as there are plenty of nice ones out there. I kind of knew that anyway really as I did have nt friends to begin with. But basically I think it's probably more important to have friends who share you're interests and have a compatible temperament than to have friends who are just neurologically similar.

Having said that I still really want to meet some other aspergians, just ones that I have something else in common with as well. I know there are a lot of people from here meeting up in London today and just going to some museums and seeing if they get along. Well I think that's a really good idea and whilst it's probably not very helpful if you live in the middle of nowhere I think if you know there are other aspies in you're are it would be good to try and arrange something like that. If we all made that effort we'd probably all end up with more friends.

I strongly suspect that someone I know in real life is an Aspie. Although we've had a few fun times, I don't feel as though I can connect with this person at all. We only share one interest, and all conversations on that topic seem to end very abruptly.

Now that he's graduated, it seems that all I can do is greet him when he logs on MSN, and then ask all of the "small talk" questions hoping that he will give an answer other than "I don't know" or "I don't care." so a conversation can be stared. When I make a random comment, I get a response like "Ok" that places the burden to continue the discussion back upon myself.

Needless to say, it gets very frustrating to try to communicate with him compared to my NT friends.

*packs bags*

Chester for aspie capital!

My offline experiences with people on the Autistic Spectrum hasn't provided any long-lasting friendships. For the most part I find conversation with NT people much easier, even if I feel more under pressure to perform. There are a few Aspies who I've met who are quite easy to talk to for a significant length of time, but those are in the minority - most just give me short, simple answers or rely too heavily on me to keep the conversation going. That said, silent Aspies don't make me feel as nervous as silent NTs.

I'm confident I can make more Aspie friends though - offline or online - which is why I'm here!

I have found it quite easy.

I knew a boy in my elementary school who was maybe an aspie. He only wanted to talk about what he wanted to talk about and didn't want to listen what you wanted to say.

I knew an aspie when I was 15 and 16 and we talked about anything. He was better than the other kid but he had ODD so he hurt other people to get his way.

I knew met an aspie one time when I was 17 and she was real nice. She came off as normal even though she complained about the candle smell her mother had lit and she was an animal lover.

I saw a bunch of aspies at the barbecue in 2007 and I went to the aspie gathering this past Sunday and they came off as normal too even though we were all stimming. There was one who was rocking back and forth through out the gathering and one guy hunched over and the rest, came off as normal. I met this real nice lady sitting next to me and she worked as an aid in special ed part time. I am shy around my own kind too and can't even give eye contact but she could but maybe because I was aspie so she felt comfortable and she was real friendly.


I also met someone from on here and his voice was a little monotone and he didn't give much eye contact I don't think and he didn't say much but he asked me some questions and made comments.