I think for me, being one of those folks with aspie and NT traits, I would look for a role model who's in that same space as me. Not necessarily an aspie. But certainly someone with enough of those traits, and the right ones, that I an identify with them.
One person's been a role model for me in dealing with emotional stuff. Someone who deals with emotional stuff easily wouldn't be a role model. I think he's a role model because he's had to learn, and because he's verbal about that stuff. (He's a musician, so gets to share stuff about himself when he wants to.) Like me enough to be an example of what I can be.