To put it bluntly, as a female, I personally don't care much for someone's physical appearance, aside from having decent personal hygiene. Even if you have a small or large build, I'm okay with that as long as your personality is decent and works well with mine. I actually am more into someone's personality because 1)I'm somewhat nonconformist myself 2)I am rather sensitive to emotions and motives, so I don't do too well with constantly negative people and 3)I kind of don't care much about appearances in general. Hope this helps