Does anyone else HATE sex sometimes?

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SEX IS GROSS!! !

YUCK!! !

I don't know if I'll ever be able to have a romantic relationship. I stiffen up with close physicial contact. It took me years even to accept hugs from anyone but my Mom and Dad.

Well I have always really enjoyed sex apart from with one person. He was submissive (which I hate) and also would only last under ten seconds and as a result I was really grossed out when we had sex but I felt bad for him as he was a very nice guy. We only had sex a few times in three months though as I kept making excuses, which is really unlike me. I broke up with him for this reason after three months. All the other people were fine though and sex has always been my favourite thing to do. Which is strange as I don't generally liked to be touched by people - only by people I have had sex with.

any one felt like they were being suffocated during sex, with the guy on top, and ur brain switching off and not realizing when u have orgasms or not.

I used to have an extremely active sex life, in my head. I've hooked up a fair number of times before I got married, but never had anything long term until I met my wife. It's never translated 100% into the real world, though. I'm able to function, but it can feel like work at times. Here are some things I've thought would help:

1. Talking about ones desires, and going over how it will happen, planning every single detail, then acting. I think most people are much more spontaneous, but I think for someone with ASD, planning is a very important part of how things work. At least this is the way I work with every other social event, so why not sex? It's really not that abnormal to talk about one's desires beforehand as well. Go ahead and work out every move if you wish. Don't worry about "success" or not, just get used to the idea.
2. For some, talking about it, and keeping touch to a minimum may be enough. It might be that one wants companionship, but not necessarily to be touched by that person. So, fine, don't touch each other, but you can still masturbate, talk, and share fantasies. You can still touch, but maybe not quite as intimately as others.
3. I have a feeling that most people on the autism spectrum have "abnormal" desires. It's just my guess that since people are so overwhelming, that we probably focus our desires elsewhere. Fine, don't be ashamed. As long as you're not hurting others or breaking the law do what works for you.

Even Nt women don't enjoy sex all the time. You should never feel like a freek because giving yourself in that way isn't easy for you.

I have to say, I actually really enjoy sex, provided it's not boring, not over too quickly and he doesn't look me in the eye when we're doing it because I find that really off-putting.

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I used to actually like it, years ago. I felt "normal" doing it. But I did not want a relationship--just regular flings. I could not find a guy willing to do this. So I ceased all of it.

Now, I have passed through he change of life and I have changed for the better. I have no more feelings for it. Good. The young ones here will have to wait.

Me and my boyfriend have sex all the time and I love it!

It's easier, since I realised am on life's scrapheap to remember it as a demeaning, dehumanising act. Which to my recall, it often was.

I have to have emotional intimacy. Cant do one night stands, dont trust people. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he wants sex all the time. I feel so...like a piece of meat! Im an emotional person, i just cant get horny out of the blue (only sometimes actually)..mostly hormonal. but no, most of the time, i dont want it and it becomes a chore. He doesnt understand why and feels bad for having to ask. Which in turn makes me feel bad...viscious cycle....I wish i did, I dont know why I dont.

Me too...I am really sensitive and sometimes can't handle the over-stimulation of sex. I also don't like deep tounge kissing much.

It's a love-hate relationship.

Sometimes I just am so disgusted by physical contact or by a man's body. I could go years without sex and not even miss it.

But after I have it, I always think, "Wow, that was great. I should do this more often." But I never do.

That said, and this is going to sound ironic, I feel that perhaps because I'm hypersensitive, I have fantastic orgasms, always. I don't feel pain well, which is a plus, and any physical contact is magnified for me. A nice combo. But I hear that more commonly, sex is extra-painful for AS women, and the sensations are highly unpleasant. Am I just an oddball among oddballs?