NT M-AS F vs. AS M-NT F pairs

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Are aspie women typically more compatible and form bonds with NT men better and more often than aspie men do with NT women?

It seems that way to me.

I really don't think it crosses most people's minds. I think they think of it as "that's just who they ended up with".

It may be easier for AS women to get dates for two reasons. The first is that young men generally judge more on looks than young women, and as far as I'm aware looks are not directly affected by AS. The second is that the onus is on men to make the first move.

Whether they are more likely to be "compatible" is a much more complicated question that I can't answer.

That's a tough question; I can only speak from my experience. As far as I know, all of my relationships have been with individuals not on the spectrum; when I learned my son was diagnosed as HFA roughly one year ago, I discovered that my mannerisms and characteristics fall on the spectrum as well. The relationships I had with women who were perhaps what some might consider 'classic NT' personalities had good beginnings, but inevitably disintegrated painfully after the passage of time. My fiance is not on the spectrum; she is incredibly deft in interacting with others - but she has faced her own set of challenges and has a degree of understanding, compassion and patience that is not necessarily a common quality. Without some sort of personal experience, I can see where there would a likelihood where women would be frustrated with an unfamiliar form of behavior, different priorities and thought processes.


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asperger's has been suggested to be an ultra male personality

anyway as I see it AS Women are in general less "bitchy" than NT women