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IdahoRose
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| Praetorius wrote: | The correct answer is: Don't obsess about people of a certain nationality.
I think that sums it up! |
I'm not obsessed with British guys, honestly. The truth is, I started out with a desire to date foreign guys in general, and found that British guys were probably my best bet since a) there's no language barrier and b) I already have family members who live there, so visiting or even moving there wouldn't be a problem. |
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benjimanbreeg
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 10:55 am Post subject: Re: British Men and Dating |
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| IdahoRose wrote: | So anyways... After I turn 18, I'm considering pursuing serious relationships with men from overseas in the UK. The problem is, quite a bit of the things I've read about them online are contradictory or in one case, intimidating, and I was wondering to what extents these things are true in the general British population.
The contradictory:
- Some sources have stated that British men expect women to pay for half of the tab when going out to lunch/dinner. Another source stated that, when a woman offered to buy her British man a drink, he was appalled and said he'd never heard of such a thing.
- A few other sources say that British men love to "shag" on their dates, yet another source stated that a British man was disgusted by the "grinding" dance styles he'd seen in American clubs. Yet another source stated that British men do not like it at all when women make sexual comments or jokes.
- A few sources claimed that British men don't call their women on the phone very often, and the women are kind of expected to do most of the calling. However, in one source a British man claimed that his American girlfriend was "too aggressively chatty".
The intimidating:
- All British men ever want to do on dates is drink and "shag". And if they really like you, they'll "go on shag dates" with you later.
I'm intimidated by the whole "drink n' shag" dating prospect, because frankly, I'm absolutely terrified of having sex with a man at this point in my life; and due to my religion I stand firmly in my belief that I should save my virginity until marriage. And due to the medications I take, I'm not able to drink.
Any input/advice is greatly appreciated! |
lol, you Americans and your statistics! Doesn't mean every guy is the same. I do like to pay for meals, or i'll share sometimes with my girlfriend. Or she'll pay for dinner and i'll pay for the shopping or vice versa. Why are you set on finding a British guy? Also yeah, this country is full of alcoholics. You'd probably end up cooking dinner while you husband is getting drunk in the pub. You should maybe look closer to home, or maybe somewhere else in Europe. |
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benjimanbreeg
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| intense wrote: | How did a thread about dating British men turn into a tread about rape!  |
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michel
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British men and dating, isn't that an oxymoron, like military intelligence? Kidding!
Why would British men be so different? Nowadays, the whole world is becoming a global village.
However, be prepared that Europeans have a variety of sources for their news, unlike America, where every news story centers around Americans. Consequently, he most probably will have a very different perspective on issues than you, so at least be open minded and ready to expand your horizons.
But romance wise, England is very cosmopolitan, you might like the seduction... |
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IdahoRose
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 12:59 pm Post subject: |
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| michel wrote: | | But romance wise, England is very cosmopolitan, you might like the seduction... |
Ooh! I've always wanted to be seduced by a man! It would be a welcome change from me trying (and failing) to seduce men myself. |
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benjimanbreeg
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| IdahoRose wrote: | | michel wrote: | | But romance wise, England is very cosmopolitan, you might like the seduction... |
Ooh! I've always wanted to be seduced by a man! It would be a welcome change from me trying (and failing) to seduce men myself. |
haha, go to a holiday resort in Italy, the Italian guys are like vultures |
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ManErg
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 1:47 pm Post subject: Re: British Men and Dating |
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| IdahoRose wrote: | | So anyways... After I turn 18, I'm considering pursuing serious relationships with men from overseas in the UK. The problem is, quite a bit of the things I've read about them online are contradictory... |
Shock! Horror! Women confused by UK men "not being all the same"
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:43 pm Post subject: Re: British Men and Dating |
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| ManErg wrote: | | IdahoRose wrote: | | So anyways... After I turn 18, I'm considering pursuing serious relationships with men from overseas in the UK. The problem is, quite a bit of the things I've read about them online are contradictory... |
Shock! Horror! Women confused by UK men "not being all the same" |
If only she knew the truth
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JohnHopkins
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Come on boys, you know very well we're all exactly the same
Let's go out on the tiles lookin' for a shag, eh, me ol' muckers?
Bob's yer uncle, mate! |
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IdahoRose
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I'm really sorry, British guys. I didn't mean to come across as ignorant. I only wanted to find out if the things I read online were true; I wanted to find out if the Englishmen were any different than Americans as far as dating goes... 
But seriously, cut me a little slack, would you? I mean, for goodness sakes, I've been living in Idaho my whole life. Idaho. The furthest I've ever traveled from my house was Laguna Beach, California. And that was only for, like, a day. Despite my worsening case of wanderlust, I'm afraid I really don't know what people are like outside of America (or Idaho, for that matter). |
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As they said in the Twilight Zone episode, people are alike all over.
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JohnHopkins
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Rose my dear, I think you'll find that 1. I'm only joking, so there's no need to cut you any further slack 2. I replied individually to your entire post, so I've cut you plenty of slack already!
...Bob's yer uncle, mate! |
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benjimanbreeg
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| IdahoRose wrote: |
I'm really sorry, British guys. I didn't mean to come across as ignorant. I only wanted to find out if the things I read online were true; I wanted to find out if the Englishmen were any different than Americans as far as dating goes...
But seriously, cut me a little slack, would you? I mean, for goodness sakes, I've been living in Idaho my whole life. Idaho. The furthest I've ever traveled from my house was Laguna Beach, California. And that was only for, like, a day. Despite my worsening case of wanderlust, I'm afraid I really don't know what people are like outside of America (or Idaho, for that matter). |
ahh, I think its pretty sweet really. But I mean, you could find a nice guy in the US. Whats been wrong with the ones you've tried dating? |
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Aalto
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| IdahoRose wrote: | | LePetitPrince wrote: | | You are not my type. |
Lol, I was never planning on going out with you, anyway. |
This made me grin. 
Unless you're game for a fair search, chances are you may have to find a Christian dating community or the like if you're waiting 'till marriage. We're quite a secular state. They're around, I can't deny it, but in uneven clumps, though it's still worth a try. Also, you shouldn't really limit yourself to one country. Perhaps were the closest in culture to Yanks |
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release_the_bats
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| Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 11:59 pm Post subject: |
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| IdahoRose wrote: | | Praetorius wrote: | The correct answer is: Don't obsess about people of a certain nationality.
I think that sums it up! |
I'm not obsessed with British guys, honestly. The truth is, I started out with a desire to date foreign guys in general, and found that British guys were probably my best bet since a) there's no language barrier and b) I already have family members who live there, so visiting or even moving there wouldn't be a problem. |
I used to try to avoid obsessing over men of certain foreign nationalities. I thought it would be unrealistic and superficial.
Then I moved to an American city where there are a lot of foreigners. I randomly met a man from a country I was obsessed with and experienced something like love at first sight. We have a lot in common, and there's a strong connection aside from the respective interest in each other's nationalities.
I work in retail and have something of a social life so I meet people of his nationality at least once every day. If he were to leave me, I think I could easily meet another nice guy from the same country right here where I live. I hate to think of such a good thing ending, but in the interest of being realistic, it's nice to know that I'll never be forced to go back to American men because I don't think I could . . . I think I've been "converted".
Watch out - it could happen to you! People are basically the same everywhere, but if you really like a certain country or accent, it can easily become a requirement for attraction, especially once you've experienced it first-hand. I think that's just how attraction works for most people.
So, IdahoRose, before attempting a cross-continental relationship, maybe you could consider relocating to a large, multi-national American city? Or at least looking for British men living in America? They are out there. I have seen them. |
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