Rat_Barzane wrote:
... I settled into "lesbian" - Because I have absolutely no sexual desire for men, never have...
You gave me my smile for the morning.
I like (certain) guys myself, but as a guy, I necessarily like guys who go for other guys. And, no offense to straight guys reading, but I think they TEND to be more attractive - as a rule, they take better care of their bodies, they are more conscious about the effects of what they do and say, they have an understanding of what it's like to not fit in, and they are generally more flexible and open-minded. (They have their down-sides too, of course.)
So I think if I was female, I would be a lesbian myself. I'm not attracted to straight guys at all.
(I'm not saying you yourself would like guys if you were a guy, just that I can sympathize in a strange way.)
To your actual point, I can see how a label would be helpful, provided it's not written in stone. I think you summed it up very nicely with the word 're-evaluate'. A label is a snazzy way of saying 'this is who I am right now', as long as it is open-ended to re-evaluation. I personally prefer 'bi' because it sums up the fact that I'm free to change my mind at any time, which I consider to be more central to my sexual identity than any other factor.
I like to think about it as renting vs. owning. If I accept a label, I treat it as though I'm renting. If I discover the neighbors are loud and the plumbing sucks, I'm gonna move. Don't take on a mortgage unless you are DARN sure the place fits your needs!