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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and lying |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:12 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 2,356
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| I almost never lie, for 2 reasons. First, I'm honest and direct by nature. I say what i think, ir say nothing. Lying usually just doesn't occur to me. Second, lying is difficult for me. I'm just nit good ar it. If I lied in the way many NTs do, I'd get my lies mixed up and very quickly get caught. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and lying |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:06 pm
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Replies: 35
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babybird wrote: I'm blunt. I have no interest and nothing to gain in trying to deceive people
I only lie, deceive and manipulate people, if they trying to manipulate or gaslight me, and I want to avoid that.
In most of the cases there is no reason to lie, so I will be honest then. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Management might finally stop questioning my intelligence |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2024, 1:36 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,518
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| Sure you know that being highly intelligent does not mean being capable. Many, and if I'm being quite honest most, highly intelligent people do not have the other skills necessary to be a good executive secretary. Hard to say. May some are highly intelligent but being an executive secretary does no... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Management might finally stop questioning my intelligence |
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Posted: 16 Mar 2024, 3:08 pm
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Replies: 2
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| A long while ago I applied for an executive secretary at my current employer (after acquiring a related diploma). But thinking I can't handle it (too hight workload), the employer decided to ask a carreer coach to find a job that would be better for me. My employer doesn't like autistic people, but ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Job Coach for Autistics |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2023, 12:18 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 14,420
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| I would like to work with a job coach, but it is too much of a hassle to arrange that. Do I have a work handicap? I don't know. Yes, I have ASD, but am I not able to do certain things, for example administrative procedures or tasks? I am not convinced. I have no proof I can. But my boss hasn't any ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Job Coach for Autistics |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2023, 10:30 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 14,420
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| I would like to work with a job coach, but it is too much of a hassle to arrange that. Do I have a work handicap? I don't know. Yes, I have ASD, but am I not able to do certain things, for example administrative procedures or tasks? I am not convinced. I have no proof I can. But my boss hasn't any p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Learning new things |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2023, 10:21 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 19,612
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I recently followed the education of Executive Secretary. Now I am learning Russian and bookkeeping. Maybe I will found a company which secretary and bookkeeping services.
I sometimes want to watch videos about interesting subjects, like Belarusian. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are all people with autism picky about food |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2023, 9:01 pm
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Replies: 63
Views: 98,026
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| I am not picky at all. Of thousand types of food, there are maybe 4 or 5 things I don't like. For the rest I eat everything. I like eating foreign cuisine. In Germany I like to eat Kartoffelsalat or Schweinebraten, in Austria Kaiserschmarren, in Czechia trdelník or věneček, in Russia борщ, in Belaru... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Miscommunication with my line manager |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2023, 3:58 am
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Replies: 9
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| Yes, this is very common. We often end up working on holidays and weekends. And this leads to bosses expected to cover for them whenever they make mistakes! I think all we can do is do our best and look for better situations. I got tired of my boss messing up and expecting me to cover for him so I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2023, 3:36 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 23,186
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| As a child, I am asked whether I am quite normal? They think and also say, that I am a moron, an idiot and other insulting words. Now some people are more subtle about this. They are angry for no reason. Or they are right but the tone is very hostile, sometimes even threatening. And I often face peo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: how do we all deal with aging, as spectrumites or otherwise |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2023, 10:45 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 54,459
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| Only my body feels like it's ageing , my mind is still a teenager. I don't do anything at all to help the ageing process, although I did purchase my first pair of slippers today. Additional considerations? No idea lol I feel the same. I am 57 years old. But I don't feel that way. I am also physical... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Untrustworthy |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2023, 8:53 am
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Replies: 10
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| Where do I begin on this topic, as I have so many examples of untrustworthy people that have bullied me. They have caused me to gradually lose most of my humanity. I test people on how trustworthy they are with some sacrificial things that I have. Those that fail the trust test feel my wraith event... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Untrustworthy |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2023, 8:47 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 419
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| ... This sounds all very paranoid. I wish I would not have to be that paranoid. But somehow I attract people that have interests different from me. Either they are mistaken (and in some cases I do believe that), or they have their interests. My previous boss diagnosed me with a learning disorder be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People staring at you in public places due to your Autism |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2023, 9:26 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 898
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| Now I don't care, whether they stare or not. Sometimes I do, especially when women stare at me. When I was much younger, girls and young women stare at me, although I am way older than they are. Men don't stare at me, I think. But I don't pay attention to men. Somehow there is a reason why women sta... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Untrustworthy |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2023, 11:46 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 419
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| Way too many, I must say. My previous bosses have done something different than what they promised to do, or than what I expected them to do. They often do things behind my back. It can happen once or twice to someone; that would be bad luck. But to me it happens often. I wonder why that is? They ar... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Only flirting because she was drunk? |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2023, 7:46 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,477
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| Would you be quite offended if someone said that a lady only flirted with you because she was tipsy? Because drinking tends to lower one's inhibitions, she may have expressed her true feelings about you -- " In Vino Veritas " (" In Wine [is] Truth "), after all. Possibly. A long... |
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