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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Masking at work |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 18,377
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| I really don't think it's a good idea to be too out and proud at work. I used to pansy foot around about this but now I'm just saying it's best to keep a lower profile. Don't make yourself into a problem. Get accommodations in a soft way whenever possible. Over time, autistic people can easily rise ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Body language question? |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 3:26 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,784
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| If the other person is doing something, like cutting vegetables or watching for something out of a window. You come in and start talking. They don't turn around but continue the conversation: I would say they are saying, I am busy and this is more important, but I will take your conversation into ac... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Confronting people and thus losing them as friends |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 3:21 pm
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Replies: 50
Views: 3,752
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| I honestly struggle keeping friends long term. I don't like it when people ask too much of me or get too personal. And I have a physical disability so I will randomly have to cancel plans at the last minute. A lot of people take that personally. I have had to simply disappear from many neurotypical ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "friend" suddenly started ignoring my emails |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 11,381
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| I don't usually read this kind of thread but it's been an off day and this caught my interest. Okay so the sights have been set on Dena the fellow Aikido student, who is ignoring the social media and emails but speaking politely in person? And the question is now whether to repeat happy birthday wis... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Frivolous special interests |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 2:55 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,667
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| The "autism" in OPs statement is not the embarrassing special interest, it is the idea that every person does NOT have an embarrassing interest. The difference between neurotypical and autistic special interests is that neurotypical people do not really draw energy from time with their int... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Unmasking |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 2:45 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,381
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| As for unmasking: I would say you're going to need to spend time just noticing how you react to things, and then mull over whether you'd like to change that in future...For me, one of the biggest things is noticing what exhausts me or stresses me out the most, and taking steps to mitigate those sit... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Finding other Aspies at college? |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 2:30 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,965
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| I agree. I have not heard a lot of success stories about autist clubs that were centered on autism. Just get him to hang around some interest themed places at his school. I also recommend a simple and I think underrated tactic: Wear interest based t-shirts. I myself am married to who I would describ... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Common Symptoms with ASD, BP, ADHD |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2024, 2:17 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I have been browsing this site: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/ It has amazing infographics that clearly display many topics of interest regarding "neurodiversity". I really like that the site has merged symptoms between autism and other conditions. My son has ADHD, my husband has Aspe... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is a problem that an NT caused, and did not realize... |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2024, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 4
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| NTs cause constant problems for themselves and others. I love to watch the hilarity unfurl. I am one of them and I do it all the time, but am aware. And sometimes do it on purpose, so I guess I don't count. I tell you something I do that is Helpful and not a Problem to autists, however. Sometimes I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Embarrassed in a store |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2024, 5:28 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,402
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| I grew up on food stamps, the predecessor to EBT. We were so poor my mom would send my brother and I through the line with a food stamp dollar to buy something that cost 25 cents so she could save up the other 75 cents in cash. This was in the late 1980s and early 1990s. Sad. I think it's kinda mess... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Special interest in unwritten rules (of etiquette)? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 1:59 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 3,489
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| https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Presentation_of_Self_in_Everyday_Life ^There is one of the best books I have ever read. Maybe I will read it again after I am done with my reread of Forrest Gump (another good one). I am neurotypical, but I will be the first to admit that I'm an odd duck. I am sensi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Handbook for autistic-autistic social interactions |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 1:40 pm
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Replies: 10
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| Agree this should be stickied. I have noticed this to be a problem for some time. I have tried looking into it before but did not find any literature on it. All I could find is how an autistic person is supposed to communicate with a neurotypical person. I have also looked for information about how ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Major financial mistakes |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 1:27 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Since I am not autistic, my husband is, I will share major financial mistakes WE made until we made. *We thought that since he was smarter, he should take care of anything "complicated" (turns out I am better at finances and at home construction) *We didn't realize that I could always talk... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The Americanization of the Palestinian cause |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 1:13 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 640
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| I live in the arts district of my small city. We've been having a black-teens-with-guns issue for a few years. I'm a sociologist, so what would I know about it, but I suspect our teen issue has something to do with our co-occurring terrible-schools/drugs/poverty-stricken-parents problem, which also ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Feel conflicted about having kids and not having kids |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 12:37 pm
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Replies: 2
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| If you are a dude, I would not worry about this at all. You do not have a clock ticking. I am a woman and I had my only child right after I turned 37. I had already finished all the adventurous stuff I wanted to do, so I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything. My kid is a handful. I would no... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: ADHD Anxious Gifted Kid |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 12:23 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 3,029
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| Thank you all for your responses. Your thoughts are very much appreciated. I had a lightbulb moment reading Fenn's response. Especially these parts: All the clever, time consuming tedious rote learning exercises he learned nothing from (he naturally picks up spelling just by reading) but they all re... |
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