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 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: directions out of Aspie toward NT functioning?

Posted: 15 Feb 2022, 10:46 am 

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http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com/2007/04/feelings-how-it-felt-when-i-started.html When I click on that link, I get an error message saying, "This blog is open to invited readers only." If you want us to read it, you need to change the settings on your blog to make it viewable by the...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: directions out of Aspie toward NT functioning?

Posted: 15 Feb 2022, 10:41 am 

Replies: 50
Views: 3,247


I am feeling like my brain is constantly running on highest gear, because I cannot stop analysing all possibilities. Hey KMCIURA again. Thanks for the post. So much of it is like me. Like you I used to "I am feeling like my brain is constantly running on highest gear, because I cannot stop ana...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: directions out of Aspie toward NT functioning?

Posted: 15 Feb 2022, 10:36 am 

Replies: 50
Views: 3,247


I don't understand. Reach back to what? You cannot "reach back" to something which has not existed in the first place. I have always been living with Asperger's. I have never developed this "NT functioning" you are writing about, so there was nothing to discard. It is not like I...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: directions out of Aspie toward NT functioning?

Posted: 11 Feb 2022, 1:08 pm 

Replies: 50
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That sounds ambitious. Yeah, it's like.... "If i can just just think my way out of this problem about how i think, i think i can find a solution that wont compound the already existing thinking problem i have, I think." :scratch: This is only really applicable, if you're near enough NT, i...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: directions out of Aspie toward NT functioning?

Posted: 11 Feb 2022, 5:57 am 

Replies: 50
Views: 3,247


That sounds ambitious. Though I don't say it's completely futile. Many years ago I got very interested for the first time in feelings, which I'd hitherto been dismissing as a waste of good mental energy. I found the result useful. I guess it's related to your idea of shaking off the analytical tend...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: directions out of Aspie toward NT functioning?

Posted: 10 Feb 2022, 7:26 am 

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Views: 3,247


I'll probably get flamed here {yes yes I know its totally wonderful and brilliant to be an Aspie} - but I feel the black or white, "I am Aspie" or "I am NT", may be a wrong (too simple) mindset. Maybe many of us can choose to try to reach back to activate some NT functioning, tha...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: Arguments in relationships

Posted: 09 Oct 2019, 6:12 am 

Replies: 31
Views: 4,781


Bonifaz wrote:
thank you.

Quote:
you are dealing with a theory of mind issue here.


That's a good point. Is there some sort of Sally Anne test for adults? Maybe it could be a fun way to raise the issue...
(sorry if I'm being off-topic)


https://www.wired.com/2001/12/aqtest/

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Truth about Asperger marriage failure rates?

Posted: 25 May 2017, 3:32 pm 

Replies: 83
Views: 37,977


RangeStrider wrote:
I think I've finally figured out why my marriage is so difficult and has been the whole 12 years.
Congrats! You're still together! as you become wiser it will become better and richer - enjoy

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Truth about Asperger marriage failure rates?

Posted: 04 May 2016, 3:55 pm 

Replies: 83
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Well my marriage certainly is falling apart. We haven't separated yet since it serves practical purposes like taking care of kid, less rent money, visas and so on.. what's taking it over the limit? I find often times when logic etc say it's gone, in fact it's not. there's something good there. so j...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Truth about Asperger marriage failure rates?

Posted: 23 Apr 2016, 4:54 am 

Replies: 83
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It requires my concentration every day (such as I have to remind myself to ask her how she's feeling and then replace the words "I think" with "I feel" when I'm talking to her about something I'm thinking about so she doesn't think I'm trying to undermine her (when she tells me ...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Truth about Asperger marriage failure rates?

Posted: 23 Apr 2016, 4:24 am 

Replies: 83
Views: 37,977


fodder1 wrote:
I'm married and my wife doesn't have AS.
cool how is it going? what techniques are working? thanks

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Truth about Asperger marriage failure rates?

Posted: 03 Sep 2015, 4:01 pm 

Replies: 83
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Space wrote:
JCJC777 wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
It's not sexy to talk these things out, but neither is going through a divorce because you weren't honest with eachother about these things.


actually it can be very sexy to talk about these things; NTs love to feel they are discussing things intimately and deeply and honestly

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: A different 4 Stages of Aspergers – Where are You?

Posted: 31 Aug 2015, 5:40 am 

Replies: 78
Views: 11,778


I read an interesting blog post describing the 4 Stages of Aspergers. See http://qw88nb88.wordpress.com/2008/11/26/4-stages-you-dont-have-to-go-through/ I have included the stages below: Relief Oh, thank goodness! Things finally make sense. “Of course! Why didn’t I figure this out sooner?“ Validati...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: Research funding for Adults went down from 2008 to 2012

Posted: 31 Aug 2015, 5:28 am 

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sadly mental health is very underweight in medical research overall; c.5% of spend, against c.23% of DALYs (disability) and more of suffering (especially when collateral suffering of family included). Stigma works at many levels, including that most medical leaders are from acute (i.e. non-mental-he...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: Husband, please leave me (meltdowns)

Posted: 31 Aug 2015, 5:23 am 

Replies: 10
Views: 1,075


treat your life (lives - include your great husband) as an adventure to find best tools to manage/eliminate your condition;
meditation
exercise
meds
CBT, REBT
alternative
lots/little of sleep
lots/little of social
etc

explore!

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Responsibility of change

Posted: 13 Aug 2015, 10:48 am 

Replies: 20
Views: 1,002


goldfish21 wrote:
I agree whole heartedly.

I've spent the last few years changing myself and it's changed everything for the better.
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please tell us how you've changed yourself. thanks
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