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 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Autism and Marijuana

 Post subject: Re: Autism and Marijuana
Posted: 09 Dec 2023, 4:52 pm 

Replies: 60
Views: 6,628


I have been smoking weed off and on for about 50 years. Sometimes, it helps and other times it does not. I just need to be careful and dose myself properly. Weed was fun when I was in college, but then it became more of a crutch and I stopped for many years. If you are new to weed, start with small ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 07 Dec 2023, 11:01 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


@autisticelders Your description of Autistic Perseveration was a kick in the head. Thank you, I am getting closer to passing the Duck Test, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck. I am a duck? I believe so.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Getting over emotional pain

Posted: 07 Dec 2023, 5:26 am 

Replies: 22
Views: 55,581


Look up autistic perseveration, emotional rumination, and responses to trauma. Those things could explain a lot. I was trapped in re living emotional trauma and pain for most of my life time. Once I got diagnosed at age 68, I was able to see that my re living these experiences was frantic attempt a...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 02 Dec 2023, 11:31 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


@Cataclysmic Psychlone, I needed to read your post a few times to understand. Thank you for the advice on finding compassion and forgiveness for myself. It is difficult. I am very tired of beating myself up over every stupid thing I did. Self-medication, weed, can only do so much. I am hoping that t...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 02 Dec 2023, 4:59 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


I hid in a different way behind a Union Jack for 30 years so people would accept me. Did it work? There are lessons that most people learn as children. For me, there were only rules to follow and I did not understand them. Learning late in life is much tougher than learning as a child. I had 6 brea...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 02 Dec 2023, 4:57 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


I can relate. I don't know WTF was wrong with my parents. The school I attended in the late 70's called in a 'specialist' because of what I eventually found out: I was Autistic. When I was 6 years old, it was not widely known. Of course they 'doctor shopped' until they found someone who offered an ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 02 Dec 2023, 4:54 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


This is beautifully written, and I bet a lot of people here can relate to you. Especially the part about emotions flowing back from some hidden chest with a padlock on it. Getting diagnosed is like being granted to the key to the chest of memories, and sometimes there are memories there we wish wer...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 01 Dec 2023, 3:29 pm 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


CockneyRebel wrote:
I hid in a different way behind a Union Jack for 30 years so people would accept me.


Did it work?

There are lessons that most people learn as children. For me, there were only rules to follow and I did not understand them. Learning late in life is much tougher than learning as a child.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Re: Why do I hide?
Posted: 01 Dec 2023, 5:14 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


CockneyRebel wrote:
I hid a lot when I was in high school. I didn't know who to trust and who not to trust.


I am the same way. My threat detector is always running at full for the past 60-plus years

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: After a formal diagnosis

Posted: 30 Nov 2023, 3:42 pm 

Replies: 4
Views: 6,046


Woodpecker wrote:
In the last week I have had a formal diagnosis.

Have you got any advice with the process of coming to terms with an official diagnosis ?


Focus on the good in your life, all your accomplishments, and your family. You have done well and should be proud.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Why do I hide?

 Post subject: Why do I hide?
Posted: 30 Nov 2023, 2:27 pm 

Replies: 14
Views: 5,581


For most of my life, I hid because I did not understand the NT world where my actions were met with the back of a hand. Now, I hide because the sting from the slap makes sense. So how did I get here? About twenty years ago, I realized that something was missing in me. I did not know what it was. The...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: how alienated were you?

 Post subject: Re: how alienated were you?
Posted: 20 Nov 2023, 3:29 pm 

Replies: 34
Views: 10,126


To your average NT, I am a jerk. True as a kid, teenager, and adult. I was completely clueless and got all the social things wrong. Some people were kind, but others made my life difficult. My threat detector was always running at full and I did not let anyone close. Alienated, yes, and today I am a...

 Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion   Topic: How will Americans adjust to life in an authoritarian state?

Posted: 19 Sep 2023, 2:44 pm 

Replies: 102
Views: 2,869


I do not have the imagination to answer your question well. All I know is that the next 12 months will be hell. There are a few novels that explore the issue very well. "It Can't Happen Here" by Sinclair Lewis "The Plot Against America" by Philip Roth "The Book Thief" b...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: I feel good again

 Post subject: Re: I feel good again
Posted: 19 Sep 2023, 1:13 pm 

Replies: 18
Views: 1,117


Sorry, that is tough. I made a few bad career choices that left me damaged and bitter. Just picture Icarus in free fall and smashing into the ground.

Sometimes we need to take a step back to figure out how to go forward. Good luck, I hope you find a job soon and you get your confidence back.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: anyone else just not feel anything???

Posted: 18 Sep 2023, 11:34 am 

Replies: 5
Views: 1,582


I am not numb but challenged. "FleeOfChill" stated it nicely. I can feel angry, sad, amused, and a few others. The more subtle emotions are difficult for me to understand. Strong emotions scare me and I try to avoid them. This has caused me untold trouble in the NT world and left me bitter...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Theory of Mind

 Post subject: Re: Theory of Mind
Posted: 18 Sep 2023, 6:46 am 

Replies: 17
Views: 1,966


Understanding that other people have different opinions is one thing, identifying it when it's relevant and using it to make decisions is another. It's more often the case that we struggle to use a theory of mind to guide our actions and expectations with respect to others. This is my problem and i...
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