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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can someone 5 year younger be at a different life stage? |
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Posted: Yesterday, 2:41 pm
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| Than me ? When I was on a bus somewhere today, I got complimented about my scarf by this young woman who was studying at college and I complimented on the nice coat she was wearing, she seemed to take a liking to me, she seemed nice but I felt awkward and strange as I am someone 30+ and passed the d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Over 30 and never been in a relationship. Bad? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2025, 12:10 pm
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| I would like to stop feeling bad sometimes for not having experienced a long term or short term relationship. But it seems hard to do so and it at times depending on what frame of mind I'm in, makes me lose hope because I absurdly think that over time women might lose interest in me and that if they... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I stop feeling bad about being a late bloomer? |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2025, 5:03 pm
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Replies: 5
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| Despite being a 30+ year old, I still feel like as though I've got the body and mind of a 20/25+ year old. I appear to be doing things maybe a number of my peers are doing now such as working and driving a car (I didn't start working in a paid job till my mid 20s and didn't pass my driving test unti... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Is it right to compare Putin to Hitler ? |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2025, 2:30 pm
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| It do get a little bit annoyed when some people bring up analogies or comparisons to Hitler with what Putin is doing in Ukraine. It made me think before well if Putin was like Hitler, he would have attacked other countries by now but I maybe wrong there because before NATO existed, there was nothing... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Have we "had our day?" Because of other people replacing us? |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2025, 9:49 am
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| I keep seeming to think my generation (millennials) have "had our day" because we are not doing all the things Gen Z are doing now. It does seem quite irritating when the focus is on them now and not much with millennials anymore. It does even annoy me when people who want to enjoy certain... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Is a wartime disaster less important than in peacetime? |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2025, 6:36 pm
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| I've never heard of it. Why on earth were there 9000+ people aboard? That seems an insane number. It was filled well beyond its maximum capacity of evacuees (both civilian and military) fleeing from the Red Army. It was only originally designed for a capacity of 1,465 passengers and there only 489 ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Is a wartime disaster less important than in peacetime? |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2025, 5:17 pm
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| Since I was a kid, I've had an interest in natural and man made disasters. We probably all know about the titanic sinking but it's not the worst ship disaster in history. The Wilhelm gustloff which was sunk by a Soviet submarine in 1945 was the largest loss of life in a ship sinking with 9,000+ peop... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why people pressure others to do something by a certain age? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2025, 6:46 pm
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Replies: 0
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| I do get quite irritated when some people pressure other people when they are young to do certain things they perhaps don't want to do by a certain stage of life even in the 21st Century when people's attitudes and ideas have changed. Those certain things include finding a partner, getting married, ... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Why does fertility coincide with a career and stuff in life? |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2025, 11:46 am
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Replies: 4
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| I get what you mean. I was in the same boat in my late teens and early twenties, focusing on getting through college and figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. Starting a family wasn’t even on my radar back then. It’s funny, though—biologically, our bodies are ready for that stuff early, bu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should I feel bad for not having a moving out mindset? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2025, 7:16 pm
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Replies: 4
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| My dad has also wondered about me transferring my job to where he lives and wondering if I'm happy with what I'm doing. I've explained to him I seem to be fine with my work and once think of getting a different job somewhere else but I seem to have little interest in moving on to another field of jo... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should I feel bad for not having a moving out mindset? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2025, 9:47 am
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Replies: 4
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| I read a study in which 18% of 25 to 34 year olds are still living with their parents and struggling to have enough money to move out, rent or their own property. I sometimes feel "bad" because unlike my peers I haven't had an urge in my brain telling me to move out and continue to live wi... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Why does fertility coincide with a career and stuff in life? |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2025, 11:58 am
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| I can't understand why we are more fertile in our late teens/early twenties when people's brains are not fully formed and matured until later. It makes it come across as though that is the ''ideal'' time to start thinking and having children but back then, that was the last thing on my mind while it... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: If only peer pressure didn't exist |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2025, 11:51 am
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Replies: 1
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| I seem to think that had there not been things like clubs, bars, parties when you're young, man-made deadlines or expectations to have to start by a certain stage in life having relationships, sex, marriage and kids etc I seem to feel I wouldn't be having these comparison thoughts or missing out as ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feel like the only one with little time for dating apps |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2025, 6:12 pm
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| I always find myself doing other things but not actively going on a dating app. I even seem to feel I've got little interest in social media, despite having a Facebook and Instagram account, but I don't spend my life always taking photos of things or myself unlike when I first started using it. I th... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Have days when I don't feel like talking at work |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2025, 3:50 pm
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| I sometimes have bad days whilst at work where I find myself not wanting to engage with some of the staff and just go about my day being quiet doing my job. I obviously can't remain silent as I have to engage with customers and staff because of my work. I find it hard to try shut off any personal th... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feels hard to enjoy life because of pressures |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2025, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 2
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| I'm finding it hard to rid myself of this self imposed pressure made in part by myself and from what I've heard from other people, that because I'm in my 30s I've got stop doing things as though I'm a bit younger and be more serious about life like finding a partner sooner rather than later just bec... |
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