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Forum: The Haven Topic: How do I stop jealousy of others' achievements? |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: Yesterday, 7:57 am
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Replies: 4
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babybird wrote: I don't know where all there high achievers are to be honest but where ever they are they more than likely will have made a lot of sacrifices to achieve all the great things you speak of
When you say sacrifices what do you mean? Sorry that's sounds an absurd question to ask |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How do I stop jealousy of others' achievements? |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2025, 12:01 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 160
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| I seem to find myself sometimes feeling like an "under achiever" because I've seen people who achieve great things before they are even 30 for example. I mean like musicians, professional sportsmen and women, people who run businesses only in their 20s. I had little interest in doing a spo... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why do I feel this way every time people talk about kids? |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2025, 1:41 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I don't know but at some dinner times and people are talking about their days and start talking about their colleagues with kids or my sister and her son. I sometimes find myself feeling like not always wanting to talk about it. It makes it just aggravate the thoughts that everyone has "moved o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I don't fit in with social groups for others with autism |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2025, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,703
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Mona Pereth wrote: chris1989 wrote: People have said you need to find others who have similar interests to you but even that feels hard. What are your interests?
Reading, writing, sometimes going out to places shopping for books, some new clothes etc. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How come some people do things at the same certain stage... |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2025, 1:10 pm
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Replies: 0
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| Of life? If life is not always in our control, how come I've seen people do things at certain stages of life compared to me and others like learning to drive at 17, graduating from university at 22, getting married to a long term partner in the late 20s, having first child in the early 30s. None of ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Never went out in a car with a loud bunch of friends |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2025, 12:08 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I don't know why but because I saw some guys in car presumably in their late teens/early 20s, it makes me feel like I've strangely missed out on not driving around in a car with friends of the same age, joking around and going for a drive somewhere. I wouldn't have wanted to drink and drive knowing ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feeling like I'm missing out on everything... |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2025, 3:50 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Or I'm not using my time more wisely to want to do things. I can't understand why I feel this way, it's almost like the world is going to end or time is running out for me because unlike other people I'm not all the time travelling the world, having a lot of good social times with friends and family... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Rushing things seems to make me anxious |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2025, 6:59 am
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Replies: 34
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| I know this sounds ridiculous as I don't know what goes on in other people's lives and relationships and I don't know how many have kids and don't have kids or don't want kids but it does feel like a lot of people are at that stage whereas a few years ago they were probably still single and so on. T... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I don't fit in with social groups for others with autism |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2025, 11:07 am
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Replies: 5
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| I've been to a couple of places in which others on the autism spectrum meet, one was set up by the autistic trust uk and another had a mixture of other people with other conditions. Even though I went to them, I still felt like I didn't fit or want to be there, I felt like the only one who was mildl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it "my fault" I have few friends? |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2025, 2:44 pm
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Replies: 4
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| I seem to have this idea that when you are young you are ment to have a lot of friends, I remember as a kid I had quite a number of people from my classes who came to a few birthdays though not all close friends. I had friends at school I was close to and still to some degree now, although some stil... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Sad and worried I'm not the same person |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2025, 4:41 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I've had another day again where I've been overthinking about things again like worried I'm delaying the chances of wanting to meet someone because I am 30+ and feeling left behind because I am seeing some people married and got kids. I also didn't feel like wanting to interact with my 5 year old ne... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Whenever I'm low, I feel like isolating and not talking |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2025, 12:45 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,875
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| But sometimes I hesitate because it's probably going to be the same issue I've talked to people about before and it's still bugging me and worried they'll get fed up and frustrated with talking about it. I don't want to suffer in silence. You don't seem to have a problem doing it on here though. :l... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Whenever I'm low, I feel like isolating and not talking |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2025, 8:12 am
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Replies: 8
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| I don't if this is a habit or not, but whenever I'm feeling low or sad about something for some reason, I end up not talking or wanting to engage much in a conversation. It happens some days when I'm a work and at home. But I do want to talk about why it is I am being quiet. It feels as though I've ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Not many meetup groups interest me. What do I do now? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2025, 6:47 am
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Replies: 1
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| When I've searched on Meetup, the groups I come across within 2 or 5 miles of where I live, are just quiz or drinks nights in a pub. There is a "readaholics" club and some paranormal night event that looks interesting but it's not really given me the itch to want to go and see them. Some o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Self imposed pressure to find someone to date |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 27 May 2025, 11:14 am
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Replies: 11
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| ^so you are having issues with conversing with women? Well, I'm not sure, I mean I do know how to approach and introduce myself to someone but I don't but most of my chances have been when I've been at work or on a break or something. The problem is I can't just walk up to some random strangers to ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Overthinking is causing me anxiety |
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Posted: 26 May 2025, 11:58 am
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Replies: 2
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| I'm worried it will never stop, because I'm obsessing over feeling like I'm "running out of time" because I've been single for a long time, worrying about dying early of a dreadful age related illness when I'm only in my 30s, haven't seen my dad, stepmum or nan since Easter due to have lot... |
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