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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm nowhere near the life I want |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2024, 7:07 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 98
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| Time is passing too fast. I try to fix my life (despite depression and anxiety). But the effort I put in is not enough, and my mental issues (including autism) slow me down. My life is just not going well. I cant get a software development job. I dont have a car. I need to do too much stuff but cant... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Going abroad |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2024, 3:29 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 33
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| I have aspergers. Would it be possible for me to go abroad and move to another country? |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Talking style, mimics and gestures |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 18 Nov 2024, 9:17 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 285
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| My facial expression does not change much, even when talking. Sometimes i look angry/upset even if I'm not. When someone tells a joke for example, I dont laugh automatically. I need to force myself to use mimics and react. Why I can't just seem normal? Give some reaction, use gestures and mimics nat... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Slow processing |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2024, 5:31 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 126
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| I don't talk to people much, but when I do, I cant usually get what they say instantly. My mind tries to understand what they are saying or meaning. People seem to process what they listen and respond straight away. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Losing track of time |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2024, 5:26 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 130
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| I'm fascinated by how fast the time can pass. Having wasted a lot of it already, I hope I can catch up. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Easily distracted |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2024, 5:01 pm
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Replies: 0
Views: 100
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| I hate this. When I'm walking down the street, any sound or someone walking past distracts me. When I'm doing something that requires focus, or reading, I get disturbed by negative thoughts, regrets, past mistakes. Or I get urge to take a walk. Is it too hard to focus and not be affected by outside ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Tech jobs |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2024, 7:00 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 952
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So, by tech jobs I mean;
Backend - frontend,
App development,
Game development,
and such fields about software engineering.
Which ones are the most convenient at the moment? Like, easiest one to get into, lowest competition etc. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Regrets |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2024, 4:16 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 126
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| Regrets of the past constantly disturb me. I might have got a nice career by now. Aspergers and mental problems slowed me down. I might also have some mistakes too. Wasted so many years unintentionally. And I have a strong memory so can't forget anything. Because of this, I cant focus on anything. T... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm probably doing something wrong |
| Highly_Autistic |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2024, 5:46 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 255
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| My IQ was tested around 147 back when I was 13 years old. But people who are way less intelligent are getting what they want while I cant. So is it social skills, continuous effort, having mental health or just luck, that makes the difference? I feel like I'm missing something |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Growing up with autism |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2024, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 151
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| I had a relatively happy life when I was a kid. I was stress free. Been really successful as a student until last years of high school. My social skills was not great. Slowly got out of society and became more withdrawn. Thats what led me to become more depressed. Im struggling to break this and get... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Comparing myself with peers |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2024, 5:23 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 123
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| Last month I had a talk with my cousin who has a well paid job and hassle free life. I checked some high school classmates on social media and they also seem to have achieved a lot. How do these guys get all they want while I struggle to get what I deserve. Is it luck? |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feeling stuck |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2024, 5:13 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 136
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| Pretty much everything is going wrong in my life. I'm smart and have potential but can't use that potential. Doing even the small tasks feels like pain. Because my brain is running low on and happiness and motivation. Dont know how to end this rut. I need to change, i cant be running in circles anym... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I feel like running out of time |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2024, 6:04 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 151
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| I mean, time is passing too fast and I'm nowhere near my goals. I used to think there is always tomorrow, but I'm losing hope that i can get my life in order. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I feel like running out of time |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2024, 5:46 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I'm going to be 27 in a few months. And i can't really keep up with peers and life in general. Not feeling like a 27 year old. My social skills are regressing. Also, my conditions, autism and anxiety are holding me back. I see my face tired in the mirror. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Having autism and high IQ makes me sick |
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Posted: 13 Jul 2024, 5:22 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 192
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| It's like wasting so much potential because I cant express myself properly and i'm bad at communication. I mean not just words, also body language stuff. My life is passing by and I cant change myself |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I can't change my life in a better way |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2024, 4:56 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 405
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I'm just like my 13 year old self at 26, no difference or an important achievement.
Putting more effort doesnt give any results. It just leads to burnout.
Sometimes I believe that I can't change at all and it's my destiny. |
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